Do Nice Guys Finish Last?

Every guy who's been abused, taken advantage of or dumped for some jerk has asked himself this question:

"Do nice guys really finish last?"

That's one worth answering--do we really need to turn into something we're not (cocky, inconsiderate, lying, cheating jerks) if we want to get the girl?

The answer to that question depends on how you define "nice."

I define "nice" as being a decent, considerate man who lives up to his responsibilities and generally makes an effort to treat others well.

But that's not what we're talking about here. Because "nice" as women define it in the context of dating means "weak-willed" and "needy."

And by this definition, nice guys do indeed finish last.

Are you fooling yourself into believing that your needy behavior is actually a virtue? Worse, are you then resentful that this imagined virtue isn't appreciated?

Some self honesty is needed here. I understand how frustrating it is to be rejected or overlooked by women, but the fact of the matter is that if you're so desperate for companionship that you become needy and clingy... the thing that needs to be fixed is your behavior--not everyone else's attitude.

Here's what needy guys do:

1. Act jealous or possessive when they like a woman.

2. Call or text with multiple follow-ups if they don't receive an immediate response to the first one.

3. Put the women they like on a pedestal.

4. Submissively avoid confrontation at all costs.

5. Buy overly extravagant gifts.

6. Try too hard to impress.

7. Display insecurity by constantly seeking affirmation and validation from women they like.

8. Unknowingly harass women with oppressively intrusive behavior.

9. Get too far ahead of themselves emotionally and "fall in love" on the first date.

Notice that none of these things have anything to do with "nice." Nice is just a label that we put on it when our needy behavior get out of control.

It makes us feel good--morally superior, even--to say that women just don't appreciate "nice guys" after we chase them off with weak, emasculated behavior.

And if that's hard medicine to take for you, let me just say this. I've had to take it myself. And yes, it's hard going down, but once you FIX this problem within yourself (and IT IS your problem), then miracles begin to happen.

That's not an exaggeration--this kind of needy behavior is poisonous. Shed it and start being your own man and your attraction level will literally skyrocket over night.

It all starts with being big enough to admit that your behavior is not altruistic. Fess up--you want what MOST guys want--the companionship of good woman.

And you also want what all those bad-boy jerks want. You want sex with attractive women.

Admit it. It doesn't make you a bad guy. You're not a saint, for God's sake. This is the dating world.

And that doesn't mean you have to mistreat women to get what you want--but it DOES mean that you don't have to go out there and make yourself a victim.

Take charge. Take control. Most of all, own up to your behavior and what results from it. This is your life and your responsibility to get the most from it.

Now get out there and make something happen.

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How to Get The Woman With the Boob Job Into Your Bed

Have you ever been to a bar or party when you see a attractive women with noticeable breast implants? All of your guy friends laugh and joke about how hot she is even though her body and chest may be her only good attributes? You know, the one that the other women talk about. You might here them say things like. "why would you do that to yourself? People will just stare at you. I would feel embarrassed if I did that. I can't believe she has such little respect for herself." Meanwhile all the men pretend to agree but really, they can't keep their eyes off off her.

You constantly try to stare at her without being noticed but every so often she catches you and doesn't really even give you a dirty look. You think that's weird since most women usually look offended. The reason these girls didn't do that is because they crave attention. That's the main reason why they got the boob job. They knew it would attract attention and that's exactly what they are looking for. They heard on some daytime talk-show that getting implants will boost their self-confidence and help them be more successful. In reality this does make a difference in both these categories but the real issue is what you must focus on.

Many times after they get the boob job, maybe work out and get into shape, they find they are getting asked on even less dates than before. The problem is men think "wow, I can't talk to a girl like that." She probably has the perfect picture of the man she wants and I don't think I fit that. The end result is very few people will talk to girls like in fear of this problem.

Now this is where you are wrong. Girls like this are desperate to talk to men, almost any man. If you are an ordinary guy that can be a little charming (and not stare at her chest) she will give you more than just the time of day. She may be shy at first but once you continue to to talk with her and make her realize that you are not just here to gawk at her implants, she will open up to you. Make sure you do not comment on how hot she looks early on. She knows this and will automatically think you are just there to get her into bed. See how the night goes.

Remember that people with fast cars like to drive fast, people with guns like to shoot them. Girls with implants...

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The Best Pickup Lines - Tips to Comfortably Ask a Girl Out

However, the irony is that while guys delay in asking their favorite girls out, there are hundreds and thousands of girls waiting to be asked out. Thus, when you want to ask a girl out, keep in mind that she is a girl and that every girl wants to be asked out. This article includes all the important tips and tricks, and the best pickup lines that will help you ask a girl out with ease.

While delivering Your Pickup Lines Your Confidence Level Should be Very High

The most important thing is your confidence level - let it be as high as it can get! The more confident you feel, the better you deal with the situation. Approach her in a calm and collective way. Don't think about the consequences you may have to bear if she turns down your request. This is not the end of the world for you. Just give it your best shot! She is likely to get attracted toward you through your high level of confidence. She would not be able to say 'no', when she sees the confidence shining in your eyes.

You can simply walk up to her and say any one of the best pickup lines below:

'Hi! How are you? Hope you aren't busy.'
'Do you have any plans for tonight? I was looking for a partner for baseball match.'
'Hey! Care for some chat?'
'Hullo! So, what's up? What's going on in life?'

Don't Let the Conversation Die

Try to develop a conversation through a warm start. Don't let the connection be lost or die. Starting up would only need a little 'hi'. Then go on talking about something you feel she would be interested in. For instance, you can try out the best pickup lines, stated below, to start-up a vivacious conversation:

'Hi! I saw you at the Book club yesterday. I too am its member.'
'Heard about an interesting movie they are showing at the nearest theatre. By the way, what kind of movies do you enjoy watching?'
'You are an English Literature student! Hmmm...I have read Shakespeare a lot.'

Hit the Iron While it is Hot

Once you realize that things are getting along well between the two of you, just ask her out.

'I want to ask you out. Interested?'
'I was wondering if it would be feasible for you to go out with me tonight.'

I hope that some of datethewoman.com/">the best pickup lines that I have stated above will prove helpful for you. Remember, girls are as much humans as guys. Thus, try to be confident without fearing the consequences and ask your girl out today before it is too late. She might be waiting for you to ask her out!

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Dating and Chronic Illness: A Match Made in Heaven

dating is like a full time job---you are out there interviewing and playing the field. There is the anxiety about looking good, knowing the right thing to say, going to the right place and doing the right thing. You want to put your best foot forward when it coming to dating and being attractive to the other person. When you add a chronic illness to dating, it's an entirely different game to play.

So how do you date and manage a chronic illness at the same time? Let me share my story and what I do in my life.

As a single woman in my 30s, I am both a cancer and arthritis survivor. With my dating over the past several years, I wondered, when should I mention about my chronic illness. Do I keep quiet and say nothing or do I let it all out and say, "take me as I am!" It's all about decisions and how you feel at the moment. Decisions play an important role in managing your dating life and here are some actions to take:

Apply the EAT IT UP solution:

E - Educate yourself and others about your chronic illness

A - Accept your chronic illness and become comfortable with yourself

T- Talk about it freely and openly

I - Innovate ways to manage your chronic illness in your dating life

T - Toss out your feelings to the world

U - Unleash your awesome self

P - Persevere no matter what

Here are some things you can do in everyday life to get to know another person and break the ice with chronic illness:

1. Watch an inspirational documentary about a person with a chronic illness
2. Go to a fundraiser in support of a specific health related cause
3. Include the date in your everyday routine i.e. Exercise
4. Ask your date what obstacles and challenges they have overcome and then share your own

The reality is when you share yourself fully with others, you put yourself at risk and be vunerable. One of the keys to feeling and sharing love is the act of vunerability. When someone feels you, gets you and understands you, a deep connection happens. Vunerability leads to either acceptance or rejection.

Remember if someone rejects you, the rejection has nothing to do with you, it has to do, with the other person. If they see illness as an imperfection in you, ultimately, they are rejecting the imperfections in themselves and are not ready to receive your love.

Keep in mind, you were designed perfect, whole and complete as is. When you are truly grounded in yourself and feel completely comfortable, another person will see the divinity in you. It's time to go out there and be on the court dating! What are you waiting for? The time is now.

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10 Signs Your Redneck Boyfriend Is In Love With You

Men in love behave a certain way. When a man is in love, redneck or not there are some unmistakable signs that he is head over heels in love with you. A man in love goes through some changes in his behavior. Below I will outline the top 10 signs that your redneck boyfriend is completely smitten.

1. He lets you drive his truck. When your redneck boyfriend lets you drive his truck and actually smiles while you do it and holds back on the criticism is a sure sign he is in love with you.

2. He gives up watching Nascar to do something with you regardless of what it is. If you find him fixing something in your house or on a blanket having tea and crumpets when he could be with the boys watching the race and drinking beer, you got him.

3. He talks about taking you to the Nascar Race. He gets all excited about it and dreams of the day he gets to show you how exciting Nascar really is. Go along with this. If you aren't as thrilled about Nascar as he is, get some ear plugs and enjoy it. Let him take you to the race.

4. He keeps Budlight in the fridge just for you so you won't have to drink the Budweiser. If he keeps another brand that you like on hand, even better.

5. He shaves off that over grown mustache and all you did was mention how nice it would be to see what his lips looked like. He keeps it shaved when you act all excited and tell him how handsome and hot he is without it. This is pretty huge. A man that has facial hair you can bet is pretty attached to it. If he shaves it off to please you, that is one of the tops signs he is in love

6. Your redneck boyfriend might be in love with you if you notice his wardrobe starts to change. You see less ball caps, his tee shirts miraculously have grown sleeves and he buys a belt and gets rid of the muddy work boots when he takes you out.

7. Your redneck boyfriend might be in love if he takes you to a real restaurant and not a Bar-B-Que Inn with picnic tables and self-serve iced tea. If he takes you to a place that isn't a buffet, and you actually get real service, he has fallen.

8. He puts you one the race pool. You have your own space there every week and he pays the $10 bucks for it. He also keeps up with your driver and proudly tells all his friends if you happen to win. If he includes you in his betting, that is a sign your boyfriend is in love.

9. If he fixes your car when something is wrong, he is into you. If he shows up on a Saturday morning with brake pads, or oil and filter, it's safe to say he might just be in love. Usually he would be having his own car in the front yard with all the wheels off. Now suddenly it's yours.

10. He goes to the dollar store and buys some candles and makes an effort at romancing you. This is a sure sign your redneck boyfriend is in love when he changes his usual take your panties off and let's screw routine for you.

Regardless it you are dating a redneck or one of the upper crusts, men in love do make changes when in love. They put forth effort, make you a priority and strive to make you happy. This is the sign that a man is in love.

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What If You Want to Date Your Guy Friend? 3 Things You Should Know

Is there a special guy in your life who right at the moment is just a friend of yours, but you want to take things to another level with him? Do you spend time with him and kind of imagine what it would be like if he was your boyfriend? It's amazing to me how common these kinds of situations are, where a guy and a woman are friends, but one of them wants the relationship to be more than friendly. Stereotypically, it is thought of as being more common where the guy wants things to advance, but quite often, it turns out that the woman wants things to progress into something more.

If this is the kind of situation that you are in right now, where you have a guy friend who you want to be something more than a friend... keep reading. There are a few things that you should know before you decide to take a chance and try and get things moving to another level with him.

Here are 3 things that you should know if you want to take things to another level with a guy friend of yours:

1. You can almost bank on the probability that he has thought about dating you.

It's not considered to be the politically correct view on this subject, but it is actually kind of rare for a woman and a guy to truly be friends without one or the other harboring a secret crush on the other person. And to be honest, most guys have had at least some thoughts about dating or hooking up with some or all of their female friends. So, you should probably assume that on some level, he has thought about you in the way that you think about him.

2. Realize that trying to take things to the dating level will change the friendship forever.

This is a reality that you will have to deal with. If the two of you start dating and have a big argument two weeks later, you probably will not be able to stay friends. It can happen that quickly. So, before you decide to try and get him to think about dating you, ask yourself if it is more important to try that out or to keep him as a friend. Of course, you expect things to work out perfectly, but they may not.

3. Try to get a feel for what he thinks about you by making little suggestive comments.

If you are really unsure about whether or not he thinks of you in that way, you may want to "test" him out a little bit at first. You can do this by making little comments that are slightly suggestive and then see what his response is. For example, the two of you decide to hang out on a Friday night, you can say something like, "It's a date then." Say it in such a way that you can play it off as a joke if he does not seem responsive to this.

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Four Make or Break Dating Tips for Men

No matter how hardcore you are, there is this point in your life when the tender caresses of love will finally get a hold of your being. That particular point in time may be now. However, there is this one big problem.

You know nothing about the proper way to woo your object of desire. Well, there have been volumes upon volumes of books written about love. There are even professional sites that promise instant success in dating and relationships. The fact that the Internet has now gone all out mainstream makes one's life easier when it comes to becoming good at dating and relationships.

What you will read below are some of the most unique tips on how to make your date with someone more of a bang than a whimper. Some may find these tips a little weird, but who cares? As long as it works, it is just fine, right?

4 Unique Tips on Dating and Relationships

* Do a Ladies Man Bad Boy Impression.

Do not be confused now. This just means that you must be as sensitive as, uh, Tobey Maguire and manly as Robert de Niro in Raging Bull but no rehearsed misogyny please! The logic behind this odd amalgam of common male qualities is to have the best of both worlds. Women may go for sensitive types but some of them go for the rough and ready male character too. What you need is to balance these two personas and blend it with your personality to arrive at the best quality that you can call your own.

* Shut Up and Listen More.

The problem with most guys during their first date is they will try to squeeze in everything about themselves to make an impression. As a result, they tend to hear themselves more instead of what their date actually wants. This neglect results to a sure-fire first date disaster that means a big waste of time, effort, money, and of course, emotional investment. So, the next time you are set on a date with someone you really do not know much of, listen more and talk less.

* Avoid Overdoing Everything.

The second tip is actually bad because it overdoes the full capacity of the mouth and the vocal cords to blabber. Everything extreme is bad for you. Extreme sense of fashion such as wearing too much eyeliner, extreme perfume that makes you smell like a walking Marc Jacobs boutique, and too much far-out ideas can turn women off. The point is, try to make everything moderate. Remember, this is just your first date and you are just getting to know each other. Better be safe than have no date at all.

* Keep Those Hormones Down.

All right. Most of the time, men will look for dates to satisfy their primal sexual urge. According to Freud, this is just natural. However, appearing as someone who is more than willing to get it on is not cool especially on your first date. Last time experts checked, not many guys succeeded on their first dates by resembling a human version of a buck rabbit on Viagra. So, please, turn down those urges. You will come to that eventually after mastering these excellent tips on dating and relationships.

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