How to Attract a Man and Get Him to Chase You

It'll be nice if we can apply the phrase "go for what you want" in all areas of our lives including the love department. For a woman, we are taught to apply this backwards which means that men should do the chasing. Although it hardly makes sense these days, we cannot deny the fact that we, women, still want to be chased. Men love to work hard and winning a woman's heart is treated as an accomplishment. So, how do you get him to chase you?

This topic can easily get confusing as there are many contradicting views about it. I know one thing's for sure; playing games will not give you the result that you want. There are some dating rules that I just don't understand like you are not supposed to reply to a guy's text message until after 3 days or you should never return his call and let him ring your phone multiple times before you pick up. Women seem to play games today more than ever because of all the irrational ideas they are putting in our heads. What happened to being honest about your feelings?

If you want a man to pursue you, you have to make him realize your value. Men give importance to everything they have to work hard to achieve. It's simple, we naturally value something or someone more when we invest or work really hard on it. When you make everything easy for a guy, he won't treat you as his most prized possession. Keep in mind that we are treated exactly how we want to be treated. In other words, we teach people how to treat us. This does not mean though that you have to play hard-to-get to the point of pushing him away. Don't pretend that you are not interested in him at all when the truth is you want him and you are dying to spend time with him. Don't ever tell a guy you are not interested in him when you really are. Men can't read minds and they will not waste time trying to decipher a single sentence and all its hidden meaning. If you tell him you don't like him he will not go "Uhhmm maybe she wants me to work harder". If you can follow one principle in your relationship it should be "Always say what you mean and mean what you say". Once you learn how to do that, you won't have to deal with a lot of drama and frustrations down the road.

One thing that attracts men is positivity which means that frowning 24/7 is not allowed. When you radiate positive energy, you attract people who are positive as well. Don't spend hours talking on the phone about your ex or how bad your breakup was. It wouldn't make him stick around longer either if you fill him up with all the drama in your life each time he calls you. If all you do is whine about your appearance or sulk about your job or your mother who keeps letting you down, he would walk away from you.

If you want to get him to chase you, you have to learn how to compromise. Being flexible is a big plus for guys who are looking for a committed relationship. You can't go by the book and stick to your rules all the time because the more you do the more conflict you will encounter. Being open will result in a smoother partnership. If a guy feels that you are not willing to compromise to meet both of your needs, he will see nothing in the future but petty arguments. Prove to him that you are willing to compromise early on so he'll realize that you two are a making of a happy, couple.

Signs He Is Cheating Online

Online dating has increased our dating options but it has also opened up opportunities for cheating. Online cheating (as with ALL cheating) starts as emotional cheating where your man begins to share his feelings, dreams and hopes with another... and then progressively begins to be sexually stimulated by his online partner through sexy messages or images. The relationship may then progress to a meeting with her so that they can physically consummate a relationship that has already been consummated online. So how do you guard yourself from online cheating? How can you tell whether he is cheating online or not? What are the signs that he is cheating online?

1.Changing online habits. A man who starts to cheat on you online will change his online habits to match his new interest.

Increased secrecy! Since he is cheating on you then he will be increasingly secretive when he is online. He may suddenly shut down the computer or the window that he was engrossed in when you come close enough to see the computer screen. He may move the computer and place it in such a way that you can no longer easily see the screen or surprise him by your sudden appearance. When he is online and you come close to the screen he quickly shuts down 1 or more windows on some pretext... and it happens every single time. This is a clear sign that he is doing something online that he doesn't want you to know about.

Increased time online.The computer is his new best friend... and he neglects you to spend time with it. Whatever time he once spent on you is now spent with the computer. You may feel rather foolish since you are actually jealous of a computer... and he may play that card to get you to back off.

2.Diminished interest in you but more sex after his computer sessions. A man that is getting his emotional needs met somewhere else no longer needs to discuss things in depth like he used to do with you. You will feel very confused because on one hand there will be an emotional distance between the two of you but on the other hand he may want more sex since his online interest is arousing him. The sex will thus be mainly to fulfill his own needs... and he will often come already aroused by his online interest.

3.He smiles and sings like he did when you started dating. A man who is cheating on you online will be inexplicably happy... and dreamy. He may be with you physically but you will see him smile to himself as he reflects on something that made him happy... the other online woman. If you ask him why he is smiling he will give you some lame story that would not make any rational person smile.

If you see a number of these signs without a reasonable explanation then know that he may be cheating on you online... or watching pornography that he thinks that you would not approve of.

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Perfect First Date Ideas

So you've managed to get that first date with that special someone, but now you have the pressure of planning it. However planning a first date doesn't have to be stressful all you have to remember is that a first date should allow for good conversation and most of all be fun so you and your date remember it.

Here are a few ideas of things you could do for a first date.

Dinner and a Movie - it's simple but effective, it allows for good conversation in a time frame that isn't too long that you run out of things to say. The dinner allows for you to get to know each other and the movie allow you to have something to discuss at the end of the date or maybe the second date (Also allows both of you to get close i.e. hold hands or maybe a kiss only if both of you are comfortable with that).

Aquarium, Museum or Gallery- Allows you to take your time and see something new as well as have something to talk about or have an opinion on. This could also lead to a dinner date after which is good as you will always have something to talk about (i.e. what was your favorite fish etc) if you run out of things to say.

Go on a ghost tour - It's new and not many people do it for a first date therefore make the date more special as well as unique. It will give you something fun to do as well as be memorable and give you something to talk about on future dates or at dinner if you go for a bite to eat after. A good thing about ghost tours is that it allows you and your date to get close either due to cold weather to keep each other warm or just because your date get scared (brilliant way to break the touch barrier).

Ice Skating - Perfect winter date as it's fun and exciting also an active date and therefore memorable. Ice skating together also allows both of you to get close as you can hold hands as you go round the rink or simply help each other stay up.

Whenever planning that first date keep in mind what both of you like. If both of you like films go see a movie, if you both like comedy go to a comedy club, if you're both into live music go to a gig (I think you get the picture now). If you go to something you both like you will enjoy it's more enjoyable and both of you will be relaxed and comfortable in each others presence and hopefully lead to more dates in the future.

How To Have Awesome Phone Conversations

If there's one thing that guys fear the most when it comes to Online Dating, it's that FIRST phone conversation.

Sure it's easy to write messages to women from the comfort of your own keyboard but you can't do that forever because eventually you MUST meet up with her in person.

Now, as I mentioned in other articles, there is a way to meet up with women without talking to them on the phone but there's always some girls who do want to chat before meeting in person.

That's OK... and it's nothing to fear!

You just need to be prepared when speaking on the phone and it's crucial that you follow all the "rules."

What are the secret "rules" for phone conversations with women?

Here's my list and make SURE you pay attention because if you don't, you'll screw it up and you WON'T be meeting her in person.

1. Avoid Neediness! - This should go without saying but neediness will KILL attraction every time! Always avoid needy behavior by demonstrating you're a HIGH value guy. If she starts to suspect you don't have a lot of options and you're placing too much importance on her... it's game over!


2. Phone Scheduling - Be sure you have an idea of her schedule and know the best times to call her so she'll ANSWER, eliminating the need to leave her a message. There are certain times in the evening that are IDEAL for placing calls because you know she will be home. Be sure and take advantage of that.


3. Have a Script - Now I'd rather you NOT memorize an entire phone conversation and recite it like you're giving a speech once you get her on the phone. That would come off as fake, and it will make you too nervous. But it helps to have an idea of what you're going to talk about. Write up some notes if you have to... (Hey, even George Costanza did this with success.)


4. Always Keep It Fun! - Make sure you keep the conversation light hearted and positive. Women are emotional creatures and WILL become MORE attracted to you if you make them laugh consistently! It's important to keep the positive momentum going that you had from emails. Did one of your messages really get her going?? Go back to that and use the same humor!


5. Avoid buzz killers! - When chatting on the phone, you always want to avoid those "buzz killing" topics like ex-girlfriends, a bad day at work, a recent death in the family, what's wrong with the world, economy etc, politics... really anything bad that's happened recently. Remember, it's all about positive momentum and nobody likes a "buzz kill."


6. Don't Talk Too Much! - That's right, if you're one of those that likes to talk about yourself all the time, try and curb it when talking to her on the phone. The ideal conversation is really about 75% her and 25% you. Now this will vary at times because of different personality types but you want to guide the conversation into fun positive directions and avoid dominating it.


7. Be Busy On The Phone - What I mean by this is try and be involved in something while talking to her on the phone. You know how women ALWAYS do this to guys... well do it right back! Women will often be driving, shopping, working out or something similar while chatting with guys. Well, you can do the same by being on your computer, working in the garage, or whatever while talking to her. It keeps the energy level high and also contributes more to the conversation. It also helps to avoid those awkward silences.


8. Keep It Short! - There's no need to have a first phone conversation go over fifteen minutes or so. In fact, even shorter is better. If you really hit it off then it's OK to go longer but typically you want to keep it brief. The best thing to do is get her laughing and then get off during a high point in the conversation. It takes some practice but once you perfect this art, you'll have a lot more success.


9. Talk Slowly - What I mean by this is talk with confidence and swagger. In most cases, talking fast assumes nervousness and you want to avoid that. Talk like you're chatting with a friend.


10. Know How To Leave a Message - Back before cell phones we had to worry about leaving messages on her machine every time we called her. Now we only need to do it once and that's after the first phone call. (This assumes you did not text her first.) When you do leave a message be sure it's quick, clear and to the point. Don't try and get cute as that will come off too "try hard."

Ok, there are your first phone conversation rules. Stick to them and you'll have her begging to meet you in person!!

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Let Go Of Emotional Baggage And Stop Feeling Emotionally Needy

Do you know that neediness is one of the greatest impediments to healthy and successful relationships? Do you know that the majority of people feel emotionally needy and they acquired this through early life conditioning that remains stored inside of them much like an old outdated computer program referred to as "emotional baggage"? Finally, do you know that is now possible to completely and permanently delete/erase this "emotional software" thereby restoring you to a whole, complete, emotionally independent, secure, self confident, capable adult? Want to learn more about how this might happen for you?

So how does one become needy and how can they be restored to a state of wholeness and emotional self sufficiency?

Well, let me start by saying that when you arrived here you were already whole and complete!

I know that many of you will find that hard to believe because that experience may feel totally unfamiliar to you.

Many of you have been led to believe that the reason you are feeling needy is because your parents failed to meet your needs for love, care, attention, validation, acceptance, understanding and so on and that they are somehow to blame for your current feelings of "deficiency".

As a result many of you continue to buy into the belief that there is a special someone out there who might be able to give you what your parents failed to supply you. This has led many of you to engage in relationships that might be referred to as "co-dependent" based on a hidden contract that goes something like:

"I'll fulfill your unmet needs if you fulfill mine".

When individuals feel they have found such a person and they agree to the contract they call this "falling in love". In fact all it is however is a contract of mutual exploitation and control. Does that sound like love to you?

Does it surprise you then that so many relationships built on such a premise fall apart so acrimoniously?

The wholeness that represented you at birth is often ignored and over ridden by the parent's need to meet their own unfulfilled needs. You simply became the vehicle/servant who was conceived to meet those needs.

In other words your true essence and purpose for being here was overridden by the need to please parents simply in order that you could survive your vulnerable baby and childhood years.
Unfortunately by the time you became a young adult you lost almost complete awareness of your essence and purpose and were so invested in playing out the expected roles thrust upon you that this left a deep feeling of emptiness inside.

That "emptiness" is a) responsible for all the feelings of neediness and b) is due to the "absence" of "You" in your mind/body and center of your life.

That emptiness can only be "filled in" by your restored presence. So how does that happen?

Well simply by deleting/erasing from your subconscious mind any/all roles and externally imprinted expectations that have nothing to do with you. These roles/expectations are laid down in the form of limiting negative beliefs and memories from early child hood i.e. what we commonly experience and refer to as "the emotional baggage"!

This erasure can now occur easily, effortlessly, permanently, and completely with a new coaching process developed a decade ago that is accessible to anyone who can read and write.

When one goes through this experience they find themselves returning to their Authentic Self which is an embodiment of feeling whole, emotionally self sufficient, complete, independent, secure, self confident, self assured, self respecting and mature to name a few.

In my view it is only from this place from within one's self that truly healthy relationships can emerge.

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7 Surefire Ways To Boost Your Dating Life

If you have been through a divorce or a recent relationship break-up, or you have been single for sometime, you might find that your dating skills are a bit rusty and in need of an up-date.

When you're single, it's very easy to become despondent and believe that that you will never meet anyone special. However, wherever you live and whatever age-group you're in, you can be sure that there are plenty of other people in a similar position to you, many of whom would just love to meet you.

Here are 7 surefire strategies which will boost your dating life and help you find love fast:

1. Make A Plan
Schedule dating into your life. Just as you would schedule business appointments into your diary, schedule a couple of events every week to go out and socialise, mix and meet new people. Don't just leave things to chance. Your ideal partner is unlikely to just fall into your lap, so be pro-active. Plan your social diary weeks in advance. But don't just leave it at that. Keep your eyes open for everyday opportunities to connect with interesting, new people whether it be on your way to work, to buy lunch or to go shopping. You'll soon notice that potential boyfriend and girlfriend material is everywhere!

2. Decide What You Want - Then Ignore It
Write down on a piece of paper exactly the criteria you are searching for in a partner. Include appearance, age, employment situation plus personal qualities and values. If you have a clear idea of what you want, you are more likely to notice it when you see it.

However, once you've done this, file it away and ignore it! Subconsciously you will notice people who fit your criteria, but then also give other people a chance. You might just surprise yourself and find your ideal partner dressed-up in a different 'package'.

3. Work Out Your Deal-Breakers
Also spend time writing down exactly what you don't want in a partner - those qualities that you will just not put-up with. You might want to steer clear of anyone who has a history of physical abuse, addiction, money problems or a criminal background etc. File this list away and when you eventually get into a relationship, check-off your new partner against this list in the cold light of day. This will prevent you getting carried away by the passion of the moment and making concessions which will inevitably lead to disaster.

4. Love Yourself First
Before you start-out looking for someone else, have an affair with yourself! Treat, appreciate and show affection to yourself as you would to a prospective new partner. Notice whenever your internal chatter tries to criticize, berate or insult you and tell it firmly to stop. You set the standard by which other people will treat you, so if you are bad to yourself, you will subconsciously train other people to treat you the same way. If necessary, seek professional expertise to help you boost your self-esteem.

5. Do Some 'Home-Staging'
Just as you would repair and spruce-up your home if you were going to sell it, do the same for yourself. Ask a trusted friend what you can do to improve your appearance, attitude and general attractiveness to potential suitors and make a concerted effort to make some practical improvements. The better your improvements, the more suitors you will attract.

6. Become Someone Worth Meeting
Just as you want to meet someone special and interesting, so do your potential partners. Start doing more of the things you enjoy. By pursuing your passion in photography, rock-climbing or salsa dancing etc., you will not only make yourself happier, but you will also become a lot more interesting and attractive. You might even find someone who shares your passion and so have a solid basis for your relationship.

7. Muster Your Resources
Now that you are ready to pro-actively start looking for that special someone, enlist the help of your trusted friends, family and colleagues and ask for their support to help you find your future partner. You never know who they might know or who they could introduce you to.

Also find a couple of other single friends to go out and socialise with. Not only will they strengthen your resolve and provide you with strong morale support, but they will also help you relax and have more fun, thus showing you off at your most attractive.

With some clever dating strategies like these, it will not be long before you are dating someone special again.

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How To Know If Your Date Has Romantic Feelings

You're getting ready for your first date tonight with the guy of your dreams. You hope he's everything you expected from what you saw on his profile. Most dates were duds, but this one seemed different. You are looking for a romantic relationship and his profile says he is too.

Excitement is climbing and you can't wait to meet him. Worry sets in wondering if he'll like you or turn away because you think you're not pretty or sexy enough, the way you walk, will you blow the conversation or will you both like the same hobbies.

Being yourself is the best way for your date to like you. When you pretend you're something you're not, your date can sense that. The true you shines through and he can see that. So now you've met him and you are nuts about him, but he hasn't said a word about how good you look or how nice you are.

Some guys are shy and afraid to comment thinking you may take offense to their niceness. He calls you a few days later and asks you out for a second date and you are over the moon. He shows you a great time and the next day sends you flowers and asks you out again.

He is calling you every night, sending sweet text messages and giving you nice gifts. Now that you've been seeing him for a few months, he doesn't want to be away from you. He's coming to your apartment every other night and on the week-ends, so you're wondering if he wants a relationship with you.

His actions show he has romantic feelings for you. If you are concerned because he hasn't said anything, it's nothing to worry about because actions speak louder than words. He will get around to telling you how he feels in his own way when he's ready.

There are guys that fear the girl will walk away not wanting to get serious. It's best to let him know how you feel and the words will usually come out. He wants you to meet his parents and friends and he makes you the center of attention.

He wants you to get involved in the family gatherings, which should tell you something. He's serious about you and it sounds like a possible marriage in the near future. He shows you respect, puts you first in his life, looks out for your welfare and makes sure you are safe. That's usually a sign of love. When you meet someone like that, you need to grab on because he will give you a great happy life. The tips in this article are signs on how to know if your date has dating.com/">romantic feelings for you.