When your boyfriend needs you more than you need him, you are in an ideal situation from where you can call the shots. However, most girls don't know how to get into this seemingly fantastic situation. If you want to do the same then follow the seven tips mentioned below. Your success is directly proportional to your efforts.
Hide your weakness and identify his
Every one has some weakness or the other. And you two are no exception to this rule. When you are dating find out what is it that he is more sensitive about or what is it that gives him the most pleasure. While doing so make sure that you do not give your weakness away. Once you have a handle on his weakness you can exploit it to control the relationship.
Never depend on him
For God's sake he is your boyfriend and not your father. Do not go to him seeking help for all and sundry. Try and be as independent as you can. Once he knows that you are independent he will have no leverage on you. This way he will need you more than you needing him.
Give him so much room that he misses you
Give up the temptation to be with him all your waking hours. In the beginning of the relationship it is ok to hang around longer. However, as the two of you get to know each other well then give him so much space that he wants you to fill the void.
Never abandon your friends
Your friends and colleagues are your second line of defense when he fails to help you. Just because you are in a steady relationship does not mean that you stop socializing with your friends and colleagues. Make sure you are in touch with each one of them and have a ball whenever time permits.
Never let your looks fade
Even if he loses interest in the way he looks you have to always look good enough to eat. If you stay attractive he will have to fend off the competition and will do any thing to please you. So, stay on your toes as far as looks and shape are concerned.
No monotony please
The relationship has to be fun for it to be exciting. Whenever you are together have a good time and make sure he also has a great time. Your ability to have fun even when the chips are down will make him slightly insecure.
Cancel, cancel and then give in
Not all his plans for dates have to be adhered to. Cancel a few dates just like that by giving him some reason that sounds reasonable. You can also cancel a few dates saying that you have to accompany a friend to meet someone or go shopping. If he wants to tag along tell him that it is not such a good ideal. This will give you back the control. However, use it carefully you don't want the poor fellow to leave you.
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