If you want to know how to get a woman, whether for a one night stand or a longer term relationship, then read on.
1. Decide on what kind of woman is most likely going to be attracted to you.
This needn't take long. You probably know already what kind of a woman you stand the best chance with. So, at least in the early days, don't go after women that you know probably won't feel attracted to you. To get to the top of the tree you have to deal with the lower branches first.
Don't expect to hit it off with a stunning blonde with a high-paying job in the City or on Wall Street if you're a low-paid average-looking quiet kind of guy living somewhere in the country. See what there is to choose from and look at things from their point of view. If you were one of the women you come into contact with from time to time, would you find yourself a desirable catch?
The sooner you narrow your focus down to the kind of woman likely to find you of interest the sooner you'll meet with success.
2. Make yourself into someone who your kind of woman finds attractive (or could easily do so).
The main point here is to be realistic. Take a look at yourself in the mirror. Ask friends what they think your chances are as you present yourself right now. Unless you're after a tramp of a woman then you'll have to look at least presentable, and not smell either of natural body odours or of cheap, pungent after-shave lotions.
Got that sorted? Good. Next is either a witty mind or, if you don't have one, then a lively interest in things that a woman is likely to be interested in too. And keep abreast of what is going on around you as well, things that are happening in your area, any controversial issues that tend to get people angry or sad or excited.
Don't be self-opinionated, conceited or arrogant. That's not how to get a woman. Think "how to get girlfriend". Imagine what she's going to think when you first talk with her. That's when she's deciding whether to accept your advances or to move on somewhere else at the earliest opportunity.
I don't mean cheesy chat-up lines that will put any woman off. I mean conversation that is focused on her and things that she is likely to be interested in. So don't talk about football or motor racing, for example, unless you know she's interested in those things too.
3. Focus on the woman you have chosen and treat her like royalty.
No woman will be interested in you unless you make her feel good about herself, or hold out the promise of making her feel good about herself, in which case you'd better deliver on that promise fast or you'll be losing her for good.
How do you make her feel good about herself? By making her feel important. If you go off to speak with your mates without apologising first, or checking she's not going to be left on her own, then you obviously don't think she's that important. Do you see what I mean?
If she feels special as soon as you introduce yourself, if she knows from your words and actions that you think she's gorgeous and would do anything for her, then you're almost home and dry. Open doors for her, lift her chair when she gets up from the table, and do all the things other men too often fail to do.
That's how to get a woman.
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