Ladies, Here's One Rule To Up Your Mmm-Mmm Factor!

I hate rules. I hate telling women to follow them. I like offering mindful 'dos' and 'don'ts' that women can use as guidelines to make sure they are on track with acting like one half of a considerate, respectful, loving, and caring whole. Rules, on the other hand, seem stifling and repressing to a woman's individuality. I think, however, that the following rule is very empowering and actually helps relieve women of stifling insecurities and releases repressed sexual urges. So I will allow myself to suggest it.

Here it is:

Rule to Follow If You Want To Up Your Woo-ooh Factor With Men: STOP trying to be sexy!

Your sex appeal in a man's eyes has everything to do with how ALIVE and UNBRIDLED your "sex spirit" is.

What's your sex spirit you ask?

Your sex spirit is the part of you that loves and ENJOYS sex.

When you start obsessing over your body image and your level of attractiveness, all in an attempt to appear "sexy" to men, you are slowly killing your sex spirit.

When you buy high-fashion magazines full of glossy, air-brushed photos of runway models and famous actresses, and then you STARE at their bodies, hair, make-up and facial features, wishing you could look that way, your sex spirit is wilting away like the petals of an abused rose.

A LUMINOUS Sex Spirit radiates off women who allow their thoughts to break free from society's idea of beauty and from inhibition and self-judgment. It WILDLY EMITS from women who aren't ashamed of their urges and who instead give their bodies full permission to be turned on at the thought of steamy, sweaty, yummy, juicy lovemaking.

When your insecurities and harsh inner voices are at work, your Sex Spirit dims. You STOP loving the bouncy, free, fun, tender, soulful, intimate side of sex, and instead, you start desperately clawing at ways to feel better about yourself. Your mind starts using sex and looking "sexy" like a weapon to validate your worth as a woman and as a person worth loving.

Your mind puts a lot of burdensome weight on sex appeal. Instead of you just feeling sexual and being confident that a man will sense that and be aroused, your mind makes you feel like you have to be sexy and turn men one in order to have status as a female.

A woman with a luminous sex spirit isn't stuck in her corrosive thoughts about her sex appeal. She doesn't have to dress provocatively if she doesn't want to, or say suggestive, attention-grabbing things if she doesn't want to. She doesn't obsess over whether men think she is sexy or not. She just cares about pleasurable lovemaking with the man she trusts and cares for.

And this "freedom from the chains of judgment" makes her very attractive to all men.

Her sex appeal becomes defined by her vivacious, life-lusting, easily-excitable, womanly energy, instead of by her looks; therefore, she is sexually appealing no matter what she wears or how toned her body is.

In fact, a woman with a radiant sex spirit could be wearing a frumpy sweater and a pair of jeans and will still attract the attention of men. There will be something about her that they can't quite put their finger on. That something is a vibe around her that screams, "I can get turned on in bed like you wouldn't believe and my body knows what it wants."

Oh boy, men love a woman with a lively sex spirit. It makes them eager to find her buttons, push them and see what happens!

So how can you nourish your sex spirit?

First, stop trying to be perfect. Stop trying to look like an ideal body shape in your head or mold yourself into looking like what you THINK men want.

Stop being hard on yourself about your self-image and start thinking about and FINDING OUT what TURNS YOU ON. Think about how pleasurable orgasms are or how delicious a man's heavy, warm breaths feel on your shoulder when he is on top of you in bed...

Whatever it is-being caressed by a hard-bodied male atop a bed of red roses; being kissed on your breasts; maybe even spanked on your tushie.

Don't judge it, just discover what it is and take time before bed to go to your little filing cabinet of things that excite you and pull out one of these fantasy images and linger in it for a while. Even go to bed naked, thinking about these images while your cotton sheets caress your soft, curvy body. Your little filing cabinet will start to give your body permission to STOP feeling ashamed of being sexual.

Find ways to feel good about life and feel good in your body. Work out because you love how it makes your muscles warm and increases your sexual appetite. Not because you hate the cellulite on your thighs and think your man secretly criticizes it in his head.

Find out what makeup, clothing, hairstyles turn YOU on when you wear them...

I love red lipstick. I love the idea of my lips looking like a strawberry that's ripe and ready to be plucked. I wear it for this reason. It makes me feel sexual in my body. I don't care how men see my red lips, I care how my red lipstick makes my lips feel full and tender and how it makes my whole body feel like it's on the prowl for a man who dares to pluck my "sweet strawberry."

And guess what? Know how many times I've heard men say, "Normally I don't like bright, red lipstick, but you wear it well."

Find ways everyday to pamper your body and to dress your body so that YOU feel turned on inside. Babydoll, your sex spirit will light up like it's the Vegas Strip at midnight on a Saturday.

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Get Back Your Ex: Tips To Get the Love of Your Life Back

There comes a time in everybody's life when they think how their life would turn out if they were still with the person whom they used to love but are not with them anymore. If this thought never crossed your mind, that means you are either lying or you really hate your ex way too much. Well, it all depends on how and who ended it. But, if it is not really anybody's fault and just a misunderstanding that made your relationship go kaput, and if you really think you were great together, then it's time you pull your socks up and decide how you want to get back your ex in your life.

First things first make sure that both of you are not in any new relationship. You don't want to start on a wrong note before you make your move. Half your battle is won if you both are single. Remember, the key to any relationship is talking. There is nothing that can't be sorted by talking and discussing something. The key to this discussion however should be to sort things out, a big no would be to find someone to blame for what went wrong earlier. To turn a new leaf start with positive things and talk about the good times you have had and how much you would want to be part of the same again.

If you know it was your mistake, it doesn't hurt to apologize. Look at the greater good. If you are honest in your approach and are able to make your ex understand your mindset at that point of time you would definitely get a good ear to that and if you are able to put across your point and apology in a manner that would strike the right chord, there is nothing that can't be worked out. But don't forget you are not trying to attract a new person which could be fairly easy; this is someone who knows everything about you. So to re attract this person could be a daunting task. You will have to go out of your way and show how reformed you are as a person; how much you have changed as they would not want the same mistakes to happen again.

There are a few things that you should not do if you want to get back your ex in your life; namely; be a weepy and a needy person, don't stalk your ex with text's, emails, calls, visits etc, don't be a push over and let him think that you would absolutely do anything to have him back. All these are signs of a weak personality and nobody wants a weak and a needy person in their life. Get your act together and be positive about everything. You want something, get logical about it and go get it. Begging and pleading is not a way.

All in all, the best thing to do is be honest about how you feel, talk it out and reason yourself and your behavior. Remind each other of the greater good and the love that you shared, keep the passion alive. If things still don't change, then you need a miracle, but chances are you wont. If your ex really has any feelings for you, after you do all this, there is nothing that can stop you to get back your ex in your life.

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How To Attract Men - Ultra Effective Tricks To Make Any Man Desire You!

Would you like to learn how to attract men? Do you want to catch and keep Mr. Right? Have you had a hard time when it comes to attracting men in your past relationships? If so, this is the most important page you'll read. You are about to discover the ultra effective tricks that you can use to make any man desire you. If you apply these tricks, any man will fall hopelessly in love with you.

Here are the ultra effective tricks to attract men and make them desire you desperately...

Reinvent yourself...

One of the best things you can do to make guys attracted to you is by reinventing the way you look. Guys are naturally drawn to look at and throw attention at attractive women. If you become that attractive woman, a guy will naturally notice you. If it's a guy you've been flirting with for a while, he will show special attention towards you from now on.

So learn to apply make up the right way that sparks interest. Get a makeover if you have to. Change your hairstyle and the clothes you wear. Surprise them all. Workout at the gym for a month and flaunt your new hot body.

Be more seen...

One of the biggest mistakes that women make which totally screws them when it comes to relationships is that they tend to believe the fact the right guy will come at the right time. If you believe in that fact, let me tell you this: The right guy at the right time will not come. You have to be the right girl that attracts the right guy at the right time i.e. now.

So get out as much as you can. The more men you meet, the greater the chance of you finding the right one. Don't make an excuse that you don't have time for dating now. You pretty well know that it's a lie. Stop lying to yourself and your friends. It's natural to desire a man that's caring, supportive and amazing. The only way you can find these guys is by meeting new guys regularly.

Keep retreating...

Men are natural hunters and I'd like to reveal to you a psychological rule women have been using for years to get men to pursue them. You must apply this golden rule to every area of your life. If you do this with just your boyfriend, it will help you a bit but it won't be effective. Try using this particular rule on all kinds of people in your life especially the various men in your life.

The rule is, "We pursue that which retreats from them". It's natural for people who've been dumped to go behind their exes like crazy. Same thing applies to gamblers who lose money. They keep on pursuing the money because it's something they just LOST when they were close to WINNING it.

Men aren't different from those gamblers. When they realize that they're winning your heart and you surprise them by retreating from them, they will be addicted to you like a magnet. They wouldn't want to lose you completely. So they'll try all things possible in order to win you back.

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Caution When Dating Online

Meeting someone who interests you to the point you consider dating them in this current society has just become difficult. This is because people have become busy and either do not have the time and opportunity to meet the people they are interested in. For other people meeting the right person is almost impossible because they are shy and just do not have the courage to go out there and connect with whoever they want. For others still, the fears of rejection and past emotional heartaches have just left a huge scar that has made it impossible to strike a conversation with that special someone. These are some of the reasons that have made dating online grow in the society today.

The dating websites have given everyone a chance to meet and start relationships with people from all over the world. Dating sites are designed for anyone to look and find that special someone online. Most of these sites are designed for singles dating who just want to meet the person that seems to be out of their reach. The dating websites are designed for both heterosexuals and homosexuals to meet their mates although in some cases you might find a site dedicated to one type. It is important to note what you want before creating your profile on any site this is because while dating online it is the profile that acts as your identity or form of introduction to the person you want. It is therefore important to take time and create the best profile because it will also be used to match you with the people you want to meet. When on these sites you should also take time to look at the people that you have the opportunity to get into a relationship with. Through people's profiles you can know whether they might interest you or not.

Dating online has many sceptics; many people do not believe that it is possible for Mr. / Miss Right to be found in these dating sites yet more and more singles dating are telling their stories of how they met wonderful people on these sites and even got married. Caution should be taken though because this has also become a platform for all sorts of criminals to capture their prey. Rapists, paedophiles, serial killers and even fraudsters have used dating websites to get their victims. You should not trust people easily, give yourself an opportunity to know someone before trusting them with information that might cause you harm. These sites do not just give you an opportunity to meet people you can date but also friends. In the chat rooms, you get an opportunity to meet and chat with so many people, it is not possible to date all of them and from the conversations you can create very good relationships.

Dating online is growing and also transforming with the growth of our society and the internet. At the moment people can chat over video, this was not possible a few years back and we are going to see more changes in the coming years.

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How to Turn Your Online Profile Into a Unique Advertisement

There are so many dating sites and so many singles online - how can you stand out? Think about business branding as a concept. Branding serves 4 functions:

1 - to help the customer remember the product
2 - to convey a complex message quickly
3 - to help the customer distinguish your product from a similar product
4 - to create positive appeal to entice someone to BUY the product

If you are on an online dating site, YOU are the product!

Why should someone be interested in you? You are a fabulous person, but how can you demonstration how wonderful you are across a computer screen in the brief time someone of the opposite sex scans a profile?

It's hard to do and many singles are frustrated with their profiles AND those they read.

Make yours stand out! Here is how.

FIRST - Come up with a dazzling screen/user name and headline. Don't rush to do this. It may take a few days to come up with a great one. You must think of adjectives that describe you. Ask a friend to help.

Take out a sheet of paper and make three columns. In Column 1 write PHYSICAL TRAITS. In Column 2 label it PERSONALITY TRAITS. In Column 3 write OTHER.

In the column for PHYSICAL, write down all the adjectives and phrases that describe your appearance. Examples of this section would have things like tall, curvy, thin, blonde, voluptuous, fit, elegant, Asian (White, Black, Latino, etc.), great teeth, wavy hair. Keep writing until you have an extensive list about your look, including how you dress (i.e. casual, elegant, preppy).

In the PERSONALITY column, write down adjectives that describe how you act and feel. For example, write down things like shy, feisty, sassy, low-maintenance, honest, witty, sarcastic.

In the column marked OTHER, put everything else there is about you down on paper, such as religion, birthplace, profession, sports or talents and other things. This section will have words like Christian, skier, Redskins fan, Ohio Native, single mom, chess champion, reality show junkie, etc.

Be honest. You can write down negative things about you as well. The goal is to have a long list of things that describe you.

You should even use the thesaurus function in MS WORD to see how to describe some of the words in a different way, i.e. tall can become statuesque.

Now comes the fun part! Pick THREE words (one from each column) that feel the best to you and are an accurate reflection of you.

One of my male clients did this exercise and he chose "Witty Boston Chef" and used it as his headline on his profile.

Try a few combinations and see what feels right.

SECOND - Write an interesting Body of your profile

Your profile is not a time to talk about what you won't tolerate in a relationship or what happened in your past. Your profile is where you establish your PRODUCT/BRAND that will make the reader want to know more. You should be brief, be positive, and be unique. You ARE unique. There is no one else exactly like you and that is what you want to come across.

It is ok to look at other profiles before you do the body of yours to see what other men and women are saying. Which ones interest you? Why? How are those different from the boring ones?

Remember to focus on what makes you unique while you are writing. Use the words and phrases from your columns to talk about who you are. Interests and hobbies will sound more unique when you divulge a few more details about them. If you expound on WHY you do or like something, you are providing a little more insight to what makes you YOU.

For instance, instead of writing "I enjoy reading fiction, running, and playing card games" write something like "I am a huge fan of John Grisham because I love criminal law and psychological thrillers." Just that little bit of extra information makes reading your profile more interesting and not so generic. Lots of people list reading as a hobby. But why? And what? Think about why you do something or how you got started in it or add a funny or interesting fact about your hobby.

But don't get long-winded. Remember singles are looking at hundreds of profiles and only spend about five seconds reading before their mind is ready to move on to something else unless it really grabs them.

THIRD - have a trusted friend look over your profile and give you feedback. It really helps if it is an opposite sex friend giving the feedback. I, as a relationship coach, work with singles on their profiles, so I can help you as well. You can contact me if you are interested in my services for online dating help. You can also order my audio class called "Love on the Net" for more tips on succeeding at online dating. Visit http://www.kikistrickland.com for more information.

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Learn How I Get to Kiss Women

A long time ago, when I was still learning the basics on how to attract women, I remember how challenging it was to kiss girls. Right before attempting this "difficult move", I remember how nervous I used to get. My whole body would shake, my hands would start sweating, and I couldn't stop stuttering even if my life depended on it.

Kissing was difficult.

Fortunately, the more I practiced, the better I got at it. What started as pure luck with crappy technique became solid game with massive sexual escalation. If you're able to demonstrate sexual confidence through a great first kiss, chances are you will be able to close the deal without major complications. In other words, a kiss will lead you to sex.

So what was the trick? What exactly helped me become good at kissing women? What changed the game for me?

The solution was simple. I started asking for kisses. Whenever I wanted to kiss someone, I would just ask for it and like magic I would get it.

Does this sound too good to be true? Does it sound too easy? Well, who said attracting women had to be complicated?

Do not get confused with the previous statement. Just because you ask for a kiss does not mean you will get it. If that was the case, you could walk up to any supermodel, ask for a kiss, and she would give it to you right away.

The magical ingredient to make this a successful technique is to escalate physically to a point where the other person feels comfortable around you. She doesn't have to be sexually aroused, she just has to be comfortable with your presence. The sex part will come after the kiss.

Let me show you how I make someone comfortable enough to get a kiss without any objection. We will assume that you are already talking to the girl in a setting that allows physical escalation.

1) Tell a compelling story: It should be fun, dramatic, and with a great ending. This is a story that shows how cool you are without directly using words that make you sound pretentious. The story I usually tell describes my experience with sky diving. For me sky diving was something amazing and that I will always remember for the rest of my life. That's why I can easily convey sincerity with this anecdote. I'm sure you have a great story to tell, but if you don't, simply Google "Cool demonstration of higher value stories to tell" and memorize the one you like.

2) Run "The Cube": To be honest with you, for a long time I was reluctant to even consider telling this routine. It was too rehearsed for me. That was until I decided to try it during a date that was going nowhere. I was amazed how the whole interaction changed from that moment on. I thought it was a fluke, so to confirm things, I kept trying it over and over again with great success. Right now, this has become one of my favorite techniques. If you don't know "The Cube", simply Google it, or go to the "Approach" category of my website. The link is provided at the bottom of this article.

3) Palm Reading: Do you know how to do it? I don't know myself, but I make it fun and women seem to enjoy it. If you actually know how to read palms, just make sure you don't tell them something depressive. It can ruin the moment. Just remember that if she's giving you her hand for you to touch and caress, she is showing a major indication of interest.

4) Tell Her a Secret: This is a great opportunity for you to get close to her and whisper something in her ear. It usually creates lots of sexual tension. The secret I tell is: "I know you probably have heard this many times before but I think you have extremely beautiful eyes. They are very captivating." As I'm telling her the "secret", I place a hand on the back of her neck. When I finish, I slowly pull away while keeping strong eye contact. If she says "Thank You" and smiles, you are in a good place.

5) Tell Her ANOTHER Secret: I usually say "I really don't have another secret for you, I just needed an excuse to give you a little kiss on the cheek." After that, I slowly kiss her on the cheek, while I hold and caress her hand. Then I proceed to kiss her hand while I make eye contact. At that point, I'm very close to her so I just say "Give me a kiss" and make a hand gesture as if I'm calling her over as I reach in for the kiss. Even though you're asking for the kiss you should be the one making it happen. Women want men who are decisive and confident, so don't expect her to chase you.

This is how I usually kiss close. I've been using it for years with great results. If for some reason the girl does not feel extremely comfortable to kiss me and turn her face, I still kiss her on the cheek and smile. I never make a big deal out of it. I simply keep running game on her and eventually she lets me know when the time is right (she doesn't necessarily have to use words to let me know).

What happens if she doesn't want to kiss me? Usually this doesn't happen because I tend not to waste too much time on women who initially don't respond positively to my approach. If at the beginning of the interaction she is cold and I see the situation doesn't improve, I tend to move on to the next one. If I really wanted a "challenging" woman, I would join a debate team. I'm at a point in my life where no stress is allowed.

Question For You

How do you kiss close? Do you have a routine that works for you? Do you just go for it and hope for the best?

Send me your responses at bo@bosproject.com and I'll post on my website the best ones. I will give full credit to the authors and 2 Free eBooks from the Bo's Project Collection.

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How to Make a Guy Like You

It's a jungle out there. Let's face it! When you are working all the time, sleeping the rest of it and then trying to catch up with other responsibilities, there is little time to find a guy too. And then, when you do finally get a chance to meet someone, you completely mess it up due to lack of confidence and lord knows what else. When and how are you going to make a guy like you?

By now you have probably listened to advice from your friends and family members on the subject. Has it worked for you yet? No! Of course it hasn't! Why else would you be here reading this article.

The reason the advice of friends and family don't help you learn how to make a guy like you is simple. They are not professionals. Your girlfriends and family think they know what guys like and want. But in fact they are just telling you things to keep you feeling positive.

They may have had more experience than you but they probably know very little about men and boys. Of course it is good of them to offer you advice. But it isn't going to give you the tools you need to succeed with men.

You need to consider a number of things carefully when it comes to meeting, dating and then keeping a guy.

1. What is your personal situation? Are you a hard working girl with no time to socialise? Or are you someone with time on your hands but no social life. Whatever the case, you need to consider how to get out there and meet someone.Consider dating agencies. There are some very professional companies out there now and it is no longer something to be ashamed of doing. Many happy couples meet through dating agencies.

2. Are your confidence levels at a low? Probably. If you are struggling with guys then it often has something to do with lack of confidence. Even the most beautiful girls can struggle with confidence and self esteem. Confidence is the most important aspect of dating. Even if the dating doesn't go well immediately, you still need the confidence to pick yourself up, say 'what the heck' and start over again.

3. Look at yourself in the mirror. Accept who you are and what you look like and get advice from the professionals on how to enhance the best of what you have to offer. A new hair style, makeover, occasional new set of clothes. all of these things will pile on the confidence even more. If you feel a million dollars then guys notice it a mile away.

4. Get yourself some books or DVD's that are written by the professionals in relationship therapy. Learn how to make a guy like you step by step. Basically, follow a concise program that will help to give you a clear focus from people who are amongst the best in their fields of expertise. They provide thousands of women and girls with insights into guys, what they want, how they think and how YOU can make a guy like you back.

It is the job of many relationship professionals to train women how to make a guy like them. Therefore, you are guaranteed to have a much better chance of succeeding in getting your guy, simply by knowing that you are learning from people who know what they are talking about.

Kara Oh, as an example, is an internationally renowned expert on 'all things' men. With her guide, she explains the significance that flirting plays when trying to attract a man.

With the right guidance, you can also learn about trying to get your man back or how to repair a damaged relationship. How to keep your guy interested so as not to let him slip away.

Noone is saying that it's going to be easy. After all, we are talking about a human relationship which is always very unpredicatable. However, there are so many things that you can learn which will raise your chances of meeting guys so much more. And that's what you need to do. Maximise your chances of meeting guys and you will maximise the chance of meeting the 'right' guy for you.

The website link below has loads of great advice and tips on how to get that guy!

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