Ladies, Here's One Rule To Up Your Mmm-Mmm Factor!

I hate rules. I hate telling women to follow them. I like offering mindful 'dos' and 'don'ts' that women can use as guidelines to make sure they are on track with acting like one half of a considerate, respectful, loving, and caring whole. Rules, on the other hand, seem stifling and repressing to a woman's individuality. I think, however, that the following rule is very empowering and actually helps relieve women of stifling insecurities and releases repressed sexual urges. So I will allow myself to suggest it.

Here it is:

Rule to Follow If You Want To Up Your Woo-ooh Factor With Men: STOP trying to be sexy!

Your sex appeal in a man's eyes has everything to do with how ALIVE and UNBRIDLED your "sex spirit" is.

What's your sex spirit you ask?

Your sex spirit is the part of you that loves and ENJOYS sex.

When you start obsessing over your body image and your level of attractiveness, all in an attempt to appear "sexy" to men, you are slowly killing your sex spirit.

When you buy high-fashion magazines full of glossy, air-brushed photos of runway models and famous actresses, and then you STARE at their bodies, hair, make-up and facial features, wishing you could look that way, your sex spirit is wilting away like the petals of an abused rose.

A LUMINOUS Sex Spirit radiates off women who allow their thoughts to break free from society's idea of beauty and from inhibition and self-judgment. It WILDLY EMITS from women who aren't ashamed of their urges and who instead give their bodies full permission to be turned on at the thought of steamy, sweaty, yummy, juicy lovemaking.

When your insecurities and harsh inner voices are at work, your Sex Spirit dims. You STOP loving the bouncy, free, fun, tender, soulful, intimate side of sex, and instead, you start desperately clawing at ways to feel better about yourself. Your mind starts using sex and looking "sexy" like a weapon to validate your worth as a woman and as a person worth loving.

Your mind puts a lot of burdensome weight on sex appeal. Instead of you just feeling sexual and being confident that a man will sense that and be aroused, your mind makes you feel like you have to be sexy and turn men one in order to have status as a female.

A woman with a luminous sex spirit isn't stuck in her corrosive thoughts about her sex appeal. She doesn't have to dress provocatively if she doesn't want to, or say suggestive, attention-grabbing things if she doesn't want to. She doesn't obsess over whether men think she is sexy or not. She just cares about pleasurable lovemaking with the man she trusts and cares for.

And this "freedom from the chains of judgment" makes her very attractive to all men.

Her sex appeal becomes defined by her vivacious, life-lusting, easily-excitable, womanly energy, instead of by her looks; therefore, she is sexually appealing no matter what she wears or how toned her body is.

In fact, a woman with a radiant sex spirit could be wearing a frumpy sweater and a pair of jeans and will still attract the attention of men. There will be something about her that they can't quite put their finger on. That something is a vibe around her that screams, "I can get turned on in bed like you wouldn't believe and my body knows what it wants."

Oh boy, men love a woman with a lively sex spirit. It makes them eager to find her buttons, push them and see what happens!

So how can you nourish your sex spirit?

First, stop trying to be perfect. Stop trying to look like an ideal body shape in your head or mold yourself into looking like what you THINK men want.

Stop being hard on yourself about your self-image and start thinking about and FINDING OUT what TURNS YOU ON. Think about how pleasurable orgasms are or how delicious a man's heavy, warm breaths feel on your shoulder when he is on top of you in bed...

Whatever it is-being caressed by a hard-bodied male atop a bed of red roses; being kissed on your breasts; maybe even spanked on your tushie.

Don't judge it, just discover what it is and take time before bed to go to your little filing cabinet of things that excite you and pull out one of these fantasy images and linger in it for a while. Even go to bed naked, thinking about these images while your cotton sheets caress your soft, curvy body. Your little filing cabinet will start to give your body permission to STOP feeling ashamed of being sexual.

Find ways to feel good about life and feel good in your body. Work out because you love how it makes your muscles warm and increases your sexual appetite. Not because you hate the cellulite on your thighs and think your man secretly criticizes it in his head.

Find out what makeup, clothing, hairstyles turn YOU on when you wear them...

I love red lipstick. I love the idea of my lips looking like a strawberry that's ripe and ready to be plucked. I wear it for this reason. It makes me feel sexual in my body. I don't care how men see my red lips, I care how my red lipstick makes my lips feel full and tender and how it makes my whole body feel like it's on the prowl for a man who dares to pluck my "sweet strawberry."

And guess what? Know how many times I've heard men say, "Normally I don't like bright, red lipstick, but you wear it well."

Find ways everyday to pamper your body and to dress your body so that YOU feel turned on inside. Babydoll, your sex spirit will light up like it's the Vegas Strip at midnight on a Saturday.

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Get Back Your Ex: Tips To Get the Love of Your Life Back

There comes a time in everybody's life when they think how their life would turn out if they were still with the person whom they used to love but are not with them anymore. If this thought never crossed your mind, that means you are either lying or you really hate your ex way too much. Well, it all depends on how and who ended it. But, if it is not really anybody's fault and just a misunderstanding that made your relationship go kaput, and if you really think you were great together, then it's time you pull your socks up and decide how you want to get back your ex in your life.

First things first make sure that both of you are not in any new relationship. You don't want to start on a wrong note before you make your move. Half your battle is won if you both are single. Remember, the key to any relationship is talking. There is nothing that can't be sorted by talking and discussing something. The key to this discussion however should be to sort things out, a big no would be to find someone to blame for what went wrong earlier. To turn a new leaf start with positive things and talk about the good times you have had and how much you would want to be part of the same again.

If you know it was your mistake, it doesn't hurt to apologize. Look at the greater good. If you are honest in your approach and are able to make your ex understand your mindset at that point of time you would definitely get a good ear to that and if you are able to put across your point and apology in a manner that would strike the right chord, there is nothing that can't be worked out. But don't forget you are not trying to attract a new person which could be fairly easy; this is someone who knows everything about you. So to re attract this person could be a daunting task. You will have to go out of your way and show how reformed you are as a person; how much you have changed as they would not want the same mistakes to happen again.

There are a few things that you should not do if you want to get back your ex in your life; namely; be a weepy and a needy person, don't stalk your ex with text's, emails, calls, visits etc, don't be a push over and let him think that you would absolutely do anything to have him back. All these are signs of a weak personality and nobody wants a weak and a needy person in their life. Get your act together and be positive about everything. You want something, get logical about it and go get it. Begging and pleading is not a way.

All in all, the best thing to do is be honest about how you feel, talk it out and reason yourself and your behavior. Remind each other of the greater good and the love that you shared, keep the passion alive. If things still don't change, then you need a miracle, but chances are you wont. If your ex really has any feelings for you, after you do all this, there is nothing that can stop you to get back your ex in your life.

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How To Attract Men - Ultra Effective Tricks To Make Any Man Desire You!

Would you like to learn how to attract men? Do you want to catch and keep Mr. Right? Have you had a hard time when it comes to attracting men in your past relationships? If so, this is the most important page you'll read. You are about to discover the ultra effective tricks that you can use to make any man desire you. If you apply these tricks, any man will fall hopelessly in love with you.

Here are the ultra effective tricks to attract men and make them desire you desperately...

Reinvent yourself...

One of the best things you can do to make guys attracted to you is by reinventing the way you look. Guys are naturally drawn to look at and throw attention at attractive women. If you become that attractive woman, a guy will naturally notice you. If it's a guy you've been flirting with for a while, he will show special attention towards you from now on.

So learn to apply make up the right way that sparks interest. Get a makeover if you have to. Change your hairstyle and the clothes you wear. Surprise them all. Workout at the gym for a month and flaunt your new hot body.

Be more seen...

One of the biggest mistakes that women make which totally screws them when it comes to relationships is that they tend to believe the fact the right guy will come at the right time. If you believe in that fact, let me tell you this: The right guy at the right time will not come. You have to be the right girl that attracts the right guy at the right time i.e. now.

So get out as much as you can. The more men you meet, the greater the chance of you finding the right one. Don't make an excuse that you don't have time for dating now. You pretty well know that it's a lie. Stop lying to yourself and your friends. It's natural to desire a man that's caring, supportive and amazing. The only way you can find these guys is by meeting new guys regularly.

Keep retreating...

Men are natural hunters and I'd like to reveal to you a psychological rule women have been using for years to get men to pursue them. You must apply this golden rule to every area of your life. If you do this with just your boyfriend, it will help you a bit but it won't be effective. Try using this particular rule on all kinds of people in your life especially the various men in your life.

The rule is, "We pursue that which retreats from them". It's natural for people who've been dumped to go behind their exes like crazy. Same thing applies to gamblers who lose money. They keep on pursuing the money because it's something they just LOST when they were close to WINNING it.

Men aren't different from those gamblers. When they realize that they're winning your heart and you surprise them by retreating from them, they will be addicted to you like a magnet. They wouldn't want to lose you completely. So they'll try all things possible in order to win you back.

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Caution When Dating Online

Meeting someone who interests you to the point you consider dating them in this current society has just become difficult. This is because people have become busy and either do not have the time and opportunity to meet the people they are interested in. For other people meeting the right person is almost impossible because they are shy and just do not have the courage to go out there and connect with whoever they want. For others still, the fears of rejection and past emotional heartaches have just left a huge scar that has made it impossible to strike a conversation with that special someone. These are some of the reasons that have made dating online grow in the society today.

The dating websites have given everyone a chance to meet and start relationships with people from all over the world. Dating sites are designed for anyone to look and find that special someone online. Most of these sites are designed for singles dating who just want to meet the person that seems to be out of their reach. The dating websites are designed for both heterosexuals and homosexuals to meet their mates although in some cases you might find a site dedicated to one type. It is important to note what you want before creating your profile on any site this is because while dating online it is the profile that acts as your identity or form of introduction to the person you want. It is therefore important to take time and create the best profile because it will also be used to match you with the people you want to meet. When on these sites you should also take time to look at the people that you have the opportunity to get into a relationship with. Through people's profiles you can know whether they might interest you or not.

Dating online has many sceptics; many people do not believe that it is possible for Mr. / Miss Right to be found in these dating sites yet more and more singles dating are telling their stories of how they met wonderful people on these sites and even got married. Caution should be taken though because this has also become a platform for all sorts of criminals to capture their prey. Rapists, paedophiles, serial killers and even fraudsters have used dating websites to get their victims. You should not trust people easily, give yourself an opportunity to know someone before trusting them with information that might cause you harm. These sites do not just give you an opportunity to meet people you can date but also friends. In the chat rooms, you get an opportunity to meet and chat with so many people, it is not possible to date all of them and from the conversations you can create very good relationships.

Dating online is growing and also transforming with the growth of our society and the internet. At the moment people can chat over video, this was not possible a few years back and we are going to see more changes in the coming years.

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How to Turn Your Online Profile Into a Unique Advertisement

There are so many dating sites and so many singles online - how can you stand out? Think about business branding as a concept. Branding serves 4 functions:

1 - to help the customer remember the product
2 - to convey a complex message quickly
3 - to help the customer distinguish your product from a similar product
4 - to create positive appeal to entice someone to BUY the product

If you are on an online dating site, YOU are the product!

Why should someone be interested in you? You are a fabulous person, but how can you demonstration how wonderful you are across a computer screen in the brief time someone of the opposite sex scans a profile?

It's hard to do and many singles are frustrated with their profiles AND those they read.

Make yours stand out! Here is how.

FIRST - Come up with a dazzling screen/user name and headline. Don't rush to do this. It may take a few days to come up with a great one. You must think of adjectives that describe you. Ask a friend to help.

Take out a sheet of paper and make three columns. In Column 1 write PHYSICAL TRAITS. In Column 2 label it PERSONALITY TRAITS. In Column 3 write OTHER.

In the column for PHYSICAL, write down all the adjectives and phrases that describe your appearance. Examples of this section would have things like tall, curvy, thin, blonde, voluptuous, fit, elegant, Asian (White, Black, Latino, etc.), great teeth, wavy hair. Keep writing until you have an extensive list about your look, including how you dress (i.e. casual, elegant, preppy).

In the PERSONALITY column, write down adjectives that describe how you act and feel. For example, write down things like shy, feisty, sassy, low-maintenance, honest, witty, sarcastic.

In the column marked OTHER, put everything else there is about you down on paper, such as religion, birthplace, profession, sports or talents and other things. This section will have words like Christian, skier, Redskins fan, Ohio Native, single mom, chess champion, reality show junkie, etc.

Be honest. You can write down negative things about you as well. The goal is to have a long list of things that describe you.

You should even use the thesaurus function in MS WORD to see how to describe some of the words in a different way, i.e. tall can become statuesque.

Now comes the fun part! Pick THREE words (one from each column) that feel the best to you and are an accurate reflection of you.

One of my male clients did this exercise and he chose "Witty Boston Chef" and used it as his headline on his profile.

Try a few combinations and see what feels right.

SECOND - Write an interesting Body of your profile

Your profile is not a time to talk about what you won't tolerate in a relationship or what happened in your past. Your profile is where you establish your PRODUCT/BRAND that will make the reader want to know more. You should be brief, be positive, and be unique. You ARE unique. There is no one else exactly like you and that is what you want to come across.

It is ok to look at other profiles before you do the body of yours to see what other men and women are saying. Which ones interest you? Why? How are those different from the boring ones?

Remember to focus on what makes you unique while you are writing. Use the words and phrases from your columns to talk about who you are. Interests and hobbies will sound more unique when you divulge a few more details about them. If you expound on WHY you do or like something, you are providing a little more insight to what makes you YOU.

For instance, instead of writing "I enjoy reading fiction, running, and playing card games" write something like "I am a huge fan of John Grisham because I love criminal law and psychological thrillers." Just that little bit of extra information makes reading your profile more interesting and not so generic. Lots of people list reading as a hobby. But why? And what? Think about why you do something or how you got started in it or add a funny or interesting fact about your hobby.

But don't get long-winded. Remember singles are looking at hundreds of profiles and only spend about five seconds reading before their mind is ready to move on to something else unless it really grabs them.

THIRD - have a trusted friend look over your profile and give you feedback. It really helps if it is an opposite sex friend giving the feedback. I, as a relationship coach, work with singles on their profiles, so I can help you as well. You can contact me if you are interested in my services for online dating help. You can also order my audio class called "Love on the Net" for more tips on succeeding at online dating. Visit http://www.kikistrickland.com for more information.

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Learn How I Get to Kiss Women

A long time ago, when I was still learning the basics on how to attract women, I remember how challenging it was to kiss girls. Right before attempting this "difficult move", I remember how nervous I used to get. My whole body would shake, my hands would start sweating, and I couldn't stop stuttering even if my life depended on it.

Kissing was difficult.

Fortunately, the more I practiced, the better I got at it. What started as pure luck with crappy technique became solid game with massive sexual escalation. If you're able to demonstrate sexual confidence through a great first kiss, chances are you will be able to close the deal without major complications. In other words, a kiss will lead you to sex.

So what was the trick? What exactly helped me become good at kissing women? What changed the game for me?

The solution was simple. I started asking for kisses. Whenever I wanted to kiss someone, I would just ask for it and like magic I would get it.

Does this sound too good to be true? Does it sound too easy? Well, who said attracting women had to be complicated?

Do not get confused with the previous statement. Just because you ask for a kiss does not mean you will get it. If that was the case, you could walk up to any supermodel, ask for a kiss, and she would give it to you right away.

The magical ingredient to make this a successful technique is to escalate physically to a point where the other person feels comfortable around you. She doesn't have to be sexually aroused, she just has to be comfortable with your presence. The sex part will come after the kiss.

Let me show you how I make someone comfortable enough to get a kiss without any objection. We will assume that you are already talking to the girl in a setting that allows physical escalation.

1) Tell a compelling story: It should be fun, dramatic, and with a great ending. This is a story that shows how cool you are without directly using words that make you sound pretentious. The story I usually tell describes my experience with sky diving. For me sky diving was something amazing and that I will always remember for the rest of my life. That's why I can easily convey sincerity with this anecdote. I'm sure you have a great story to tell, but if you don't, simply Google "Cool demonstration of higher value stories to tell" and memorize the one you like.

2) Run "The Cube": To be honest with you, for a long time I was reluctant to even consider telling this routine. It was too rehearsed for me. That was until I decided to try it during a date that was going nowhere. I was amazed how the whole interaction changed from that moment on. I thought it was a fluke, so to confirm things, I kept trying it over and over again with great success. Right now, this has become one of my favorite techniques. If you don't know "The Cube", simply Google it, or go to the "Approach" category of my website. The link is provided at the bottom of this article.

3) Palm Reading: Do you know how to do it? I don't know myself, but I make it fun and women seem to enjoy it. If you actually know how to read palms, just make sure you don't tell them something depressive. It can ruin the moment. Just remember that if she's giving you her hand for you to touch and caress, she is showing a major indication of interest.

4) Tell Her a Secret: This is a great opportunity for you to get close to her and whisper something in her ear. It usually creates lots of sexual tension. The secret I tell is: "I know you probably have heard this many times before but I think you have extremely beautiful eyes. They are very captivating." As I'm telling her the "secret", I place a hand on the back of her neck. When I finish, I slowly pull away while keeping strong eye contact. If she says "Thank You" and smiles, you are in a good place.

5) Tell Her ANOTHER Secret: I usually say "I really don't have another secret for you, I just needed an excuse to give you a little kiss on the cheek." After that, I slowly kiss her on the cheek, while I hold and caress her hand. Then I proceed to kiss her hand while I make eye contact. At that point, I'm very close to her so I just say "Give me a kiss" and make a hand gesture as if I'm calling her over as I reach in for the kiss. Even though you're asking for the kiss you should be the one making it happen. Women want men who are decisive and confident, so don't expect her to chase you.

This is how I usually kiss close. I've been using it for years with great results. If for some reason the girl does not feel extremely comfortable to kiss me and turn her face, I still kiss her on the cheek and smile. I never make a big deal out of it. I simply keep running game on her and eventually she lets me know when the time is right (she doesn't necessarily have to use words to let me know).

What happens if she doesn't want to kiss me? Usually this doesn't happen because I tend not to waste too much time on women who initially don't respond positively to my approach. If at the beginning of the interaction she is cold and I see the situation doesn't improve, I tend to move on to the next one. If I really wanted a "challenging" woman, I would join a debate team. I'm at a point in my life where no stress is allowed.

Question For You

How do you kiss close? Do you have a routine that works for you? Do you just go for it and hope for the best?

Send me your responses at bo@bosproject.com and I'll post on my website the best ones. I will give full credit to the authors and 2 Free eBooks from the Bo's Project Collection.

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How to Make a Guy Like You

It's a jungle out there. Let's face it! When you are working all the time, sleeping the rest of it and then trying to catch up with other responsibilities, there is little time to find a guy too. And then, when you do finally get a chance to meet someone, you completely mess it up due to lack of confidence and lord knows what else. When and how are you going to make a guy like you?

By now you have probably listened to advice from your friends and family members on the subject. Has it worked for you yet? No! Of course it hasn't! Why else would you be here reading this article.

The reason the advice of friends and family don't help you learn how to make a guy like you is simple. They are not professionals. Your girlfriends and family think they know what guys like and want. But in fact they are just telling you things to keep you feeling positive.

They may have had more experience than you but they probably know very little about men and boys. Of course it is good of them to offer you advice. But it isn't going to give you the tools you need to succeed with men.

You need to consider a number of things carefully when it comes to meeting, dating and then keeping a guy.

1. What is your personal situation? Are you a hard working girl with no time to socialise? Or are you someone with time on your hands but no social life. Whatever the case, you need to consider how to get out there and meet someone.Consider dating agencies. There are some very professional companies out there now and it is no longer something to be ashamed of doing. Many happy couples meet through dating agencies.

2. Are your confidence levels at a low? Probably. If you are struggling with guys then it often has something to do with lack of confidence. Even the most beautiful girls can struggle with confidence and self esteem. Confidence is the most important aspect of dating. Even if the dating doesn't go well immediately, you still need the confidence to pick yourself up, say 'what the heck' and start over again.

3. Look at yourself in the mirror. Accept who you are and what you look like and get advice from the professionals on how to enhance the best of what you have to offer. A new hair style, makeover, occasional new set of clothes. all of these things will pile on the confidence even more. If you feel a million dollars then guys notice it a mile away.

4. Get yourself some books or DVD's that are written by the professionals in relationship therapy. Learn how to make a guy like you step by step. Basically, follow a concise program that will help to give you a clear focus from people who are amongst the best in their fields of expertise. They provide thousands of women and girls with insights into guys, what they want, how they think and how YOU can make a guy like you back.

It is the job of many relationship professionals to train women how to make a guy like them. Therefore, you are guaranteed to have a much better chance of succeeding in getting your guy, simply by knowing that you are learning from people who know what they are talking about.

Kara Oh, as an example, is an internationally renowned expert on 'all things' men. With her guide, she explains the significance that flirting plays when trying to attract a man.

With the right guidance, you can also learn about trying to get your man back or how to repair a damaged relationship. How to keep your guy interested so as not to let him slip away.

Noone is saying that it's going to be easy. After all, we are talking about a human relationship which is always very unpredicatable. However, there are so many things that you can learn which will raise your chances of meeting guys so much more. And that's what you need to do. Maximise your chances of meeting guys and you will maximise the chance of meeting the 'right' guy for you.

The website link below has loads of great advice and tips on how to get that guy!

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Being Thankful for Your Dating Journey

During this time of year we are all asked to give thanks. It can be hard to be thankful if you feel alone - especially if you head off to a family dinner and Aunt Edna keeps trying to set you up with anyone and everyone she knows. First, stop and take a deep breath. Know that everything is going to work out just as it should. Then take these next steps:

1. Honor the Wonderful Person You Are Start by saying out loud "I am a woman like no other" or "I am a man like no other." Take a deep breath and say it again. Write down a list of all of the wonderful gifts you have to offer the world. Here is a list to borrow from if nothing comes to your mind right away: funny, creative, sensitive, caring, loving, a good cook, a bad cook (which means you support your local restaurants), smart, resourceful, or able to use a computer (you had to use a computer if you are reading this!) Now just sit there in the beauty that you are offering the world. Smile. Giggle a little. Take another deep breath.


2. Be Thankful that Others Care Take a minute to think about Aunt Edna, her intentions are in the right place; it is just the execution that is a bit off. She wants you to be happy. Acknowledge her for the love and care she has for you. If she didn't care about you, she wouldn't have made the effort to run down the garbage truck to get the trash man's phone number for you! Give Aunt Edna a big old hug! You can even let her know your criteria so when she is out shopping around for you she might come closer to the mark!


3. Be Thankful for all of your Past Relationships Every person who has contacted you, e-mailed you or has met with has given you a gift - the gift of sharing themselves. Sometimes the gift is big like a wonderful relationship filled with experiences, flowers, romantic dinners and some close time talking and connecting. Sometimes the gift is the "skipped heart beat" when you see that someone has "winked" at you on a dating site - only to find out that he or she is TOTALLY not your type. Focus on the positive gift that each person gives to you. This will attract more of these gifts.


4. Be Thankful for What is to Come Practice being thankful for the person of your dreams, even if they haven't shown up directly in your life yet. There are several ways you can do this. Visualizing what your life will become with this new person. You can pray for them. Write them a letter or buy them a small gift. Keep it for them and give it when you meet.

Because the holidays are so focused around family, it can be a difficult time for a single person. Take it easy on yourself and focus on the blessings that you do have in your life. Be thankful for all of the gifts and people that are in your life. Fill yourself up with love, then you will be able to give that to others - a very attractive gift to be giving when you are searching for your Mr. or Mrs. Right.

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What You Can Learn From Kim Kardashian

I know. You're rolling your eyes and going "puhleeeez, Kim, no more tabloid fodder!" yes? Well, as you know, I'm all about conscious relating and sometimes the attention given to celebrities making really bad mistakes can become excellent teaching points for what NOT to do.

And, this would be the case with the recent news of Kim Kardashian and her "72 day" marriage.

I think we can all agree these two were possibly doomed from the beginning. All the pieces were in place; media hungry couple, money at stake, sponsors they committed to and, perhaps, more in love with the wedding then they were with each other.

When you strip away the money, the cameras and their high profile status, this couple's situation is not unlike regular, every day couples I've coached or met.

I've observed plenty of couples who became swept up in the fantasy of a wedding and rush into something that, deep down, they knew wasn't right. Every day I speak with women who admit they've ignored "red flags" and warning signs - and a surprising number who knew as they walked down the aisle they were making the biggest mistake of their life.

Once those invitations are sent out, wedding dress ordered and church booked it becomes increasingly more difficult to back out - the pressure is on.

1. Slow Down

If you're in your 30's, you most likely have one eye on your career and the other on your biological clock. When you're in this place, marriage can feel like a race. The only place a "high speed connection" is appropriate is with your computer, not with a man. My recommended timeline for courtship is as follows:

• Wait at least 60 days before you sleep together
• Let your new partner know no later than 3 months your goal is marriage
• Be in relationship for a minimum of 1 year before marriage

2. Deal Breakers

Similar to couples who avoid issues by putting attention on their kids, planning a wedding works in a similar way. It sweeps issues under the carpet as your focus shifts to preparing for the big day. If your values and what's important to you don't align now, they won't down the road. Know what your deal breakers are BEFORE you commit.

3. Nerves vs. Red Flag

Nervous excitement feels like fun butterflies in your stomach. Making a big mistake is leaden with an uncertainty that won't go away - that's a red flag. If that's you, then it's time to step back, get perspective and, if necessary, have a really open conversation with your mate.

If you know you're about to walk down the aisle with the wrong man, by all means have the courage to end it. It may create a bit of drama but, let's face it, the people you invited to your wedding are those you love the most - and your happiness is far more important to them then a free piece of wedding cake. Flights can be re-booked, flowers cancelled and you can feel good knowing you just saved yourself a lifetime of unhappiness.

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Things To Talk About With A Girl On The Phone

Figuring out the right things to talk about with a girl on the phone becomes less of a challenge if you know the subjects that typically are of interest to women. Making these topics the theme of your phone conversation is not totally necessary, but it's a good idea if you find yourself struggling for things to talk about on the phone with girls. They'll serve as good conversation starters, and keep the conversation flowing.

And, certain topics can he helpful to use as "fillers" when those awkward silences might otherwise arise. Get to know some of the most common things that women take pleasure in talking about, and use them as cues to pick out things to talk about on the phone.

Many (if not all) girls have a soft spot for animals, especially those that are cute and cuddly. It's then not much of a stretch to assume that animals would be one of the nice things to talk about with a girl on the phone. Asking questions about her pet dog or cat could get her to talk endlessly about it. It's even better if you have a pet of your own, so that you can share your experiences with your pets. You might even share and exchange tips in caring for your pets. This will be a good way to build some sort of connection between the two of you.

It's also no secret that women have a great affinity for flowers and chocolates. Because of this, you can make the subject of flowers one of the good things to talk about with a girl. Do an Internet search for some of the most popular flowers, and know what they signify and how they ought to be cared for. If you execute this well enough, the girl that you are talking to may trust you enough to ask for recommendations on the right flowers that she should give for a friend who just celebrated her birthday.

In addition, gossip is something that we can consider a staple of "girl talk. " Women, in general, are intrigued by gossip relating to celebrity (especially if it involves relationship scandals). You might not feel this is a particularly interesting subject to talk about with a girl, but trust me, it works. There might be times when the "gossip of the day" isn't really of interest to you, but try to sound interested and share your views about it. Just don't express too much interest in sharing gossip, because this can make it seem as if you are a nosy, non-discreet person.

Girls also typically have a handful of television shows that they watch religiously -- weekly, or even daily. The world of dramatic series and reality shows has a massive number of female followers. These shows might not be your cup of tea, but at least try to get the lowdown on the latest story lines of the hottest shows on TV, and learn who the main characters are. This create endless things to talk about on the phone with girls, as they naturally enjoy talking about their favorite shows and characters.

These are a few topics that you can use to spark interesting conversations with women, particularly if it's a phone chat that might otherwise be awkward and difficult to move forward. At some point, they might come in handy when you find yourself racking your brain for a topic to chat about. When the phone call begins, after you exchange the opening pleasantries ("How are you?" "How was your day?" etc. ), it's up to you to introduce a topic of conversation that will interest her.

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What Is Speed Dating?

Speed dating events equals a great way to meet women. A lot of guys out there think it's dumb, but this is unreasonable; moreover, I know a ton of guys out there that are apprehensive about going to a speed dating venue for whatever reason. There's nothing more fun than going to a speed dating event: there are women there after all.

I know for a fact that a lot of these "dating experts" out there that are saying basically that clubs or bars are the only way to meet women. Maybe yes and maybe no.

There are a lot of super hot women at clubs, that's for sure. Too many men there though and that's the major problem with clubs. Plus dealing with drunk guys trying to take the girl you are talking to isn't very fun. It's a difficult venue because there is so much stimulating things for girls: hot guys, drinks, women who are with their friends and so on. It's hard to get their attention.

Straightaway, I am not against bars and clubs and I don't think they are bad per se. No. Just go there and practice. Face the social pressure and get rejected: this will give you confidence.

The majority of the dates you do secure should be by going to dating with speed events and online dating.

Filtered Locals Are The Best

If you're wondering what a filtered venue is, well, it's a speed dating venue or something like online dating. Everyone at a filtered venue have as similar reason for being there and that makes them have something in common with the people there. Like a speed dating, everyone is there because they want to meet a potential girlfriend.

By contrast, a club or bar, people have nothing really in common: hence it's a non-filtered venue. They are just there to go there to be seen. At a club, there's just no way of knowing what people's motives are. You are the first and last guy. At a club or bar, this is the primary reason that the women are so flaky.

But in a filtered venue, in a way, you are pre-approved. So, go to a speed dating event: you will have a lot more success.

Make your speed dating account for 30 to 40% of your dates. Online dating should make up 40% of the rest of your dates. Clubs and bars: 10% at most. This is the secret to having a ton of women in your life.

How To Find A Speed Dating Event

You just have to do a Google search to get started. Put this into Google: speed dating your city and state. Good luck!

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5 Things a Guy Should Do to Attract Girls

Men would like to know the answer to the common question "What are the things a guy should do to attract girls?" because they want to succeed in dating women. Women are sometimes complicated and hard to understand and yet men find them irresistible. Men want to be attractive and successful with women.

Do you find yourself frustrated and unsuccessful in meeting and attracting women? Are you wondering why some men attract women like magnet and you are having a hard time getting noticed? The following tips can be very helpful in attracting women. Here are the things a guy should do to attract girls.

Be happy with yourself and your life. The pressure of achieving success with women can make your life stressful, unhappy and full of frustrations. The moment you decided to free yourself from the pressure and be happy with yourself, you will become a happy person. If you are a person who loves life and not sorry for being single and you are not bitter, desperate or frustrated with your life, you will project a charisma that women would like to see. A happy person is a magnet for women. Nobody wants to be with a person full of frustrations and bitterness. Loving life is one of the things a guy should do to attract girls.

Stop believing that only good-looking wealthy guys get the girl. If you believe that you are not good-looking enough or you are not making enough money to be attractive to women, then you are doomed. If you have those insecurities and self doubts, it will be very hard for you to attract women. We create our realities. If you have that kind of mind-set that you are not good enough for any woman then it will become your reality. You might miss out on the opportunities of meeting great women if you set limits to yourself because of those insecurities.

Conquer your fears and take the first step. Some men are unsuccessful in meeting and attracting women because they are afraid to take the first step. They think that when they approach women and say "hi" they will be rejected. Focus on what you want and stop making assumptions. If you want to approach and talk to a woman, go ahead and focus on what you want and not on the hypothetical things you created in your mind. Once you see her, stop worrying who you are or who she is, approach her and let the magic begins. You may not get the girl by saying "hi" but at least you took the first step and conquered your fears. Eventually you will learn the effective ways of approaching women and you will acquire the skills to effectively converse with women. You have to take the first step to make things happen. A man who is confident enough to approach women is an attractive man.

Be your best self. Putting your best foot forward does not mean transforming into someone you are not. Being your best self means cultivating the best qualities you already have to attract women and avoid behaviors that might turn women off. We always have to present our best self to attract women.

Develop a sense of humor. One of the things a guy should do to attract girls is make women laugh. A guy with a sense of humor is very attractive. Women are usually emotional and serious. Making them laugh is like creating magic moments with them. Women do not want to be with a boring lifeless man but loves to be with a man with a sense of humor. Make her laugh and she will always want to spend time with you.

Attracting women is a skill that can be learned and mastered. With the right techniques, you can be the guy who gets the girl.

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Woman of Your Dreams

Finding the woman of your dreams is not a cakewalk. Most of the time, the search would have disappointments. The thing is, there is no one fixed formula for finding your dream girl, but there are some things that may help you meet that one special woman.

Be confident

Most women are attracted to men who exude confidence. Do note that confidence does not mean arrogance. Take some time and look at yourself in the mirror. Look at how you walk, stand, sit, speak and how you carry yourself. Confidence does not mean wearing expensive clothes and acting like a bully. Confidence means you are able to walk with your back straight, speak in a clear voice, maintain eye contact and have that firm handshake. Smile and relax. Learn to feel good about yourself. A positive attitude can do wonders when you are trying to find the woman of your dreams.

Be Yourself

This is something that you may have heard again and again and again - be yourself. As much as most people will never believe it, being yourself has a lot of advantages. For one thing, you will not have to keep spinning tall tales about yourself which could end up embarrassing you sooner or later. You need to relax and your date will also relax. Trying to be somebody that you are not is never a good idea. The ruse may succeed for a short time but it will be found out and the woman of your dreams will not be at all amused.

Look Nice

The very first thing women will see, when they first meet you, is how you are dressed. This does not mean that you need to dress like a movie star or a pop icon. Dressing well means wearing clothes that fit you well, are neat, and clean. Make sure your hands and nails are clean, hair is nicely trimmed and that your shoes are clean. There is no bigger turn off for a woman than seeing a man's hands and finding dirty fingernails. Be well groomed and the woman of your dreams will take notice.

Be a Gentleman

Being a gentleman is not about being all "stiff upper lipped." It simply means to behave nicely. Women like to be commented on about how they look. You need to understand that women take special care of how they look when they are going out and genuinely and enthusiastically telling her how nice she looks will go a long way. Open the door for her. Listen to what she has to say.

Follow these tips and you can be sure that you will be able to find the woman of your dreams sooner or later. Just remember to relax, be yourself, be well-groomed and be genuinely interested in her.

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How Women Can Meet More Men

Here's what women do wrong when it comes down to meeting men.

I want you to think about this statement.

100 percent of the women are waiting for about 10 percent of the men to approach.

About 10 percent of the men in this world know how to successfully approach women naturally, 24/7, all the time. The other 90 percent of men are battling some form of approach anxiety, not knowing how to approach in certain situations.

How do I know this? I've been coaching guys for so long. I'm trying to get guys to join me in the 10 percent because it's fantastic to live there, but the ratios don't have to be that high. Women could change that percentage if they just paid attention to their surroundings a little bit more, made it easier for men to approach, and made it easier for guys to talk to them. Smile, be friendly, drop the cellphone or the smartphone and actually say hello to a guy they're attracted to. Things would change if women just made themselves available. You have maybe about 40 percent of the guys being able to handle it then. Meeting other people would be so much better if women participated.

Most women don't make themselves available at all. They expect the guy to walk over there like some miracle worker, and break down the wall that they've put up for that day. Most women refuse to come over and say the right thing at the right moment even though women swear they're always in the moment. Really? I know you say that and I know you want that, but you don't make yourself available for the guy to say hello to you in the first place. You can make it easy on the men-you have all the power. It's as simple as saying hello. I'd like to be a woman for 24 hours, I'll show you how many numbers I can get.

Men are easy. It's easy to pull men over, it's easy to flirt with them, and it's easy to make them feel comfortable and safe. Stop waiting.

And the 10 percent of the men that already approach you, you don't trust them anyway! A lot of women don't trust them because they think they're just players. They don't trust it because the guy was too slick-the guy said all the right things. So maybe 5 percent of the 10 percent actually get your phone number. Make it easy on us. Make it easy on us, and it'll be easy for you.

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Real Tips on How to Get a Boyfriend

If you are here searching for some information and tips on how to get a boyfriend then you have come to the right place. Like millions of other girls and women around the world you are not alone in your search for the perfect partner. But what exactly can you do to find Mr. Right? How do you even begin to find the right person and let him know that you are available? Take a look at some of the tips below that will help you on your quest.

Firstly it's absolutely imperative that you're confident and I know at this stage you may not feel very confident at all. You may even be wondering why you are single yet there are girls out there with a different boyfriend every day of the week. Well try to push those feelings aside and for a while stop thinking that you even want a boyfriend. This can help you feel more confident and confidence is certainly an attraction for most guys. As for those girls that have loads of boyfriends? Leave them be as you're after quality not quantity and what would you rather have? A relationship with 10 losers or a relationship with one man who is worth 10 of anyone?

Whilst your confidence is growing it's great to give it a boost by highlighting your best features and downplaying your undesirable ones. All guys want is a simple relationship with someone who has a winning personality. So if you have a cute smile make sure you show him, if you have your girlfriends in fits of laughter every Friday night then let him know how funny you can be. A woman with a sense of humour is really appealing to a guy.

This doesn't mean that you shouldn't be yourself. Nobody wants to date a false person and even if you temporarily pull off some kind of charade, it won't be long before it all comes crashing down. So be yourself and show your true glowing spirit, this way when a guy reciprocates how you feel you know it's for real. Being yourself also means that you can relax and enjoy any of the dates you are about to go on.

Okay so you have a few tips but how do you break the ice?

Quite simply you have to let the guys know that you're interested and it's a good idea to make the first move. You can actually do this in one go! For example let's see you have a colleague at work that is drop dead gorgeous, you like him a lot and you'd love to go out with him. Well make the first move and ask! Let's see you're a 'shop till you drop' person, why not invite them to the mall for a spree around the shops and a slice of pizza. I guarantee a guy will be flattered by the invitation and he will certainly know you're interested.

Now obviously there are loads of other tips to help you find a boyfriend and there are other ways to let someone know you're available. However it's a good idea to begin with the initial steps listed above.

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How To Get A Woman - How To Get A Woman of Your Dreams

How to get a woman - Living the single life can be rough at times. Let's examine a couple of possible scenarios in the life of a single guy. At a local bar or club, you spot the perfect girl; stunning with a perfect figure, and begin a conversation with her. You are instantly attracted and are trying to figure out how to get her into bed the entire time you are talking. You think that she feels the same, but are not 100% sure that she is the type of girl that will go back to your place. Not knowing what to do, you allow this girl to leave and miss out on your chance to get with your dream girl.

How To Get A Woman - Conflict of Relationship

Another possible scenario may be trying to figure out how to get a woman in bed that you already know. Maybe it is a special friend that you have had an attraction to for a long time, but just did not know how to take the relationship any further. She tends to send you those cute little smiles and flirty looks, so it is likely that she feels the same about you. Obviously neither one of you knows how to approach the other to begin a sexual relationship. So what do you do? Let's examine some key tips on how to get a woman into your bedroom.

How To Get A Woman - Need Character Traits

There are many secrets to getting a woman that most men are not aware of. You need to be experienced in making a girl want you. Some guys feel that women just do not want sex; this is not the case. Women actually have more of a strong desire for sex than men do. Furthermore, women tend to gain more pleasure from sex than men, when it is with the right guy that they are attracted to. However, how do you make yourself more attractive to women? Despite what most men think, you do not need to be the perfect man to get a woman and get laid. No need for money and fancy clothes to get a woman into bed. Furthermore, it is not even necessary that you are muscular, tall, or have a nice car. These superficial things are not what attract a woman. The main thing that a guy needs to know about how to get a woman is that they need to possess certain character traits.

Character traits that impress a woman are charm, charisma, confidence, and a great personality. These are the top things that turn a woman on. Show a woman you are confident and charming, and it does not matter what you look like, you can walk into a bar and take home the woman of your dreams. Think about this; often when you are at an event or public place, there is one guy telling the jokes and making everyone laugh. This guy is usually not very attractive; he is just obviously confident and has a fabulous personality. With those skills, you may notice that he is the only guy in the room surrounded by attractive women. Being a confident man can help you with your problem on how to get a woman. Be sure that when you show this confidence however, that it does not come across to women as arrogance, a trait that will scare the females away.

How To Get A Woman - Be Confident

Also, while you are showing your confidence, you need to be the most dominant guy in the place. By dominant, you need to show her that you will make her feel like she is on top of the world. How to get a woman greatly depends on your ability to show her you can be romantic and loving. Compliment the girl you are interested in often, and make her feel important. Using those skills will obviously help you with your problem of how to get a woman. So the next time you go out, don't focus so much on your appearance. Focus on the fact that you are a confident and charming guy. Furthermore, make the girls laugh. Show them that if they are looking for a good time, then you are the perfect man. Never ask yourself how to get a woman again; use these successful and proven tips to get the woman of your dreams.

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Topics You Can Talk About on Your First Date

Going on date for the first time is actually scary as you have no clue on what you should talk to with a stranger. Most dates fail to go ahead because couples don't realize what to talk about. First of all, you should understand that it is "talking" that you have to do first and then follows other things (Perverts-pay attention).

Say you have never dated anyone before in your whole life which leaves you with zero experience in the dating scene. Now you have this drop down gorgeous man or female asking you out but you are dumbstruck and you don't know what to talk about. The number one priority is to sound interesting to impress your date. Yes, you can be interesting with your outfit, your hair color, your new footwear but unless you talk, your date isn't going to call you up for another date.

Here is a list on what you can talk about to get your dating life on a roll:

1. Introduce yourself "actively":You might be a boring person among your friends but you don't have to reveal that to your date and try to be modest. Talk about yourself by not sounding a bore. Remember, if you find yourself boring, your date will eventually find you boring. It is the impression that you create.


2. Talk about hobbies: The list under "hobbies" is endless. You cannot just say "I just work and sleep. That's it about me". Did you hear that? It would make your date want to throw up on you. Think of list of interesting things that you could do in your spare time. People always judge by how you spend your time. There is so much you could talk about like music, books, movies, art, photography, adventure, sports, business, and much more. The list is really long!


3. Be funny: Being all serious and grim is only going to make your date wonder if she took a good decision by dating you. Shrug the mature you off your skin for a while. Crack jokes because people like funny guys. You don't have to plan on your jokes; a little human humor will do just to show that you are a lively person.


4. Don't overdo it: Though your date loves to hear you talk because you are interesting, do not yap all the way so much that your date gets tired of you. Keep it right and balanced. Give a few "Ummms" while she talks and respond when the time comes.

So, the talking factor is being taken care of - just the step 1 to get your dating life spinning all the while. Sport the term "Interesting" over you and be it!

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Best Way to Ask Out a Girl - The Key Strategies That Will Help You Ask a Girl Out Effortlessly

The most frequently asked question in the dating area is what the best way to ask a girl out is. There is no simple answer; there are a lot of factors to be considered. Where did you meet her, what you two have in common, how often you two talk to each other? Let me make it clearer to you.

#1. A girl you bumped into while walking your dog

The simplest way to ask a girl out in this kind of situation is to ask her if she would like to keep you company the next Saturday while you walk your dog. Or even better say something like your dog really likes to have picnic and that it would make him very happy if she would join you and allow your dog to have the privilege of going on a picnic with her beautiful dog.

#2. A girl from the subway

This technique will only work if you meet with her on a regular basis. You can always ask her for her number so you can text her to ask her in which part of the train is she or to save you a seat. It's a great way to make a first move, to move the meetings from the subway to some other place. You can always ask her if she would like to meet with you in some other place, like a coffee shop, so you can drink your coffee and find out more about her.

#3. A girl you saw at a friend's party

In this case you can either ask your buddy to introduce you to her or you can do it yourself. During the conversation hint to her that you would like to see her again in a less crowded place. Find out what she likes (your friend can be a good source of information), and then ask her to go to coffee with you in her favorite coffee place, but of course you didn't know that it was her favorite coffee place, you simply like it yourself.

You can see a pattern there, so don't use the same pick up line for every situation and for every girl. You have to adapt to the situation, personalize your technique to fit the personality of the girl you want. Learn how to be flexible and you will never have a problem with picking up girls. Good luck!

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Are You An Old Age Bar Stalker?

For those of you over the age of 35, let me ask you a question. Do you remember when you were just out of college at 22, you went to a hip fun trendy bar full of people your age, and there was always that one guy there who was wearing a bad leather jacket, some seriously bad jeans and had a comb-over?

The more you watched him, the more he creeped you out. He looked like he was molesting every woman with his eyes, and he had a totally desperate feel about him.

For those of you still in your twenties, you also know the guy I'm talking about. He stands out like a sore thumb. He comes to the bar alone and leaves alone. He brings with him who look like three of his brothers, all of whom look about the same: lost and desperate.

So for those of you over 35, think back to when you were 22 and remember seeing this guy. Now I'm going to ask you a question. Did you become him?

Are you over 40 standing in a bar or nightclub populated by a bunch of 20-somethings still hoping to meet someone? You've just become the person you and you're friends used to make fun of and mock.

Do you think that this is your only option? Do you realistically believe that you are going to get a different result than you've ever gotten before? Are you instead maybe just off a divorce and you don't know any better?

You don't belong in a bar on a Friday night with 20-somethings, because you are going to look just like that man of which you used to make fun. Ladies, stop snickering. Your turn is coming.

Remember when you were 22 standing in that bar dressed all seductive, and you made fun of the women who dressed like a 16 year-old and who looked at all the manboys like she hadn't eaten a meal in 20 years? You used to not only make fun of her, but you also swore you would never be her... and now you are her.

Now don't start getting pissed off and telling me about how there is nowhere else to go on a Friday night. That's a bunch of crap!

You just haven't admitted to yourself yet that you need a new strategy and that you don't belong in that 20-something bar. There are plenty of places for you to go on a Friday night where people hang out who are more age appropriate.

First, there are the higher end restaurants that have a bar that the 20-somethings can't afford. Second, you can go to a bookstore. Third, you can go to a little cafe that isn't a pickup place... a place where adults go.

These are just some tips. This article is not about listing 50 things for you to go and do besides going and standing in a 20-something bar. This article is about admitting to yourself that this time in your life is over, and that you need to start marketing yourself in more age appropriate environments.

It's okay that you don't belong in these places. I don't go to them. I also don't belong in them... because I no longer want to be "that guy." It's time to start becoming the man or woman into whom you have evolved and embrace this person who you've become.

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How to Get a Woman Excited - She Will Not Resist Herself to Get Excited for You

So you want to know how to get a woman excited. Probably, you have a girlfriend and want to have sex with her but you're totally clueless at this stage. I am sure that she is very attractive and beautiful that's why you want to excite her. If you're a nice guy then possibly you don't know how to get a woman in bed.

There are some certain ways to get a woman exited. You need to know about these certain ways otherwise you should not think about having sex with her. So read on to discover how to get a woman excited.

How to get a woman excited?

Tip#1. Touch her to get her sexually excited for you - Physical touch is very important to create sexual attraction, and without sexual attraction you can't get her excited.

Women are very sensitive of the physical touch. So you should start touching her without letting her know that you're trying to touch her body. Now you should watch her carefully and find out whether she is comfortable with your touch or not. If she is comfortable with your touch then you can steps forward to touch her more to create more intimacy.

If she is not comfortable with your touch, then you should pay more attention to improve your dating life. Read more dating ebooks and read more articles on seduction. Well, you need to focus on two things:

1. Create more attraction
2. Increase her comfort level for you

Tip#2. Increase the frequency of physical contact - Now you have known that touching a woman is very important to get her excited for sex. Now you should escalate the frequency of physical touches. One thing you should remember is that you should not hold the contact too long as she may know that you are trying to touch her. If she finds that you are with her just for her body, then she will consider you as a jerk who is trying to have sex with her. And it's not a good thing if you want to excite a woman. So, be the first who break the physical contact. She will consider you as a guy who really wants her for what she is - not for just her body.

Well, these two tips are not enough to get a woman excited to have sex with you. You should arm yourself with brutally seduction techniques. Want to know those techniques?

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Flirting Tips for Women - How to Flirt With Him So He Flirts Back With You!

Flirting can be such an awkward game. For one, it's all about communication and communication between the sexes has never been an easy thing. For another, it's also all about being subtle most of the time, and sometimes that subtlety can make it so the guy is not really sure at all whether or not you are flirting with him. One thing is for sure, though, if you want to make a serious dent in your dating skills - you need to know how to flirt with him so that he flirts back with you.

Let's talk a little bit about communication first:

Most people are surprised at how little the act of actually talking has an impact on the message that you are sending. You might think that all you have to do is to say the right things to get him to want you, but there is a lot more going on than just the words that are coming out of your mouth. When you really want to spice things up with a guy... you have to learn how to use more forms of communication than just the verbal language. You need to learn how to make your body talk so that he feels attracted to you on a subconscious level. Fail to do this, and you are failing to communicate with him very effectively.

Stay Open...

Your body language needs to be open, in that it makes him feel comfortable and not intimidated in any way at all when he is around you. It might surprise you to know this, but most guys do feel some intimidation when they are flirting with a woman, especially if it just so happens that he does find you very attractive. It's important for this reason that you are very aware of what your body is doing. When it appears to be closed off to a man, then it seems to him that you are really not all that into him and that can cause him to want to just cease things right there.

Use What You Got...

Everyone has eyes, right? Of course, they do. So, why do so many women fail to see just what these eyes can do for them? When you really want to get a guy hooked on you, and you want him to feel like he is falling for you, your eyes are one of your most potent weapons of choice. Do not ignore them, they are there for a reason, so use them!

Initiate Playful Touching...

If you are really smitten by a certain guy and you want things to move in the right direction, do not be afraid to introduce a little bit of playful touching. It's harmless, yet at the same time can generate a lot of sparks between the two of you. Do this and he will be practically forced to want to flirt back with you.

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How To Make Him Want You More: 3 Tips That Work Like A Charm

So you want to learn how to make him want you more. Lots of women have this dilemma too, although only a handful of them actually know what to do about it. Some accept their situation, while others actively search for ways to deal with it.

If you want to learn how to make him want you more, here are some useful tips to help you out.

Tip # 1: Love Yourself First.

When you are self-confident, everything else follows. Men find self-assured women irresistible. So before you go out there in hopes of learning how to make him want you more, you've got to want yourself more first.

None of these tips are going to work if you don't love yourself enough in the first place. Loving yourself first also means treating yourself well. Besides, the more you love yourself, the easier it is for you to actually see other people falling at your feet.

Tip # 2: Let's Get Physical.

Let's face it. Men are visual creatures. If you want to attract a guy's attention more, then you've got to start with what's immediately visible. A little bit of personal grooming improvement isn't going to hurt you after all.

A change of style, for example, can do a lot to change other people's perspective of you. Do your clothes fit well? You might be wearing a size larger than what you really are. Stay fit so you can feel good when wearing tight or sexy clothes.

Learn how to accentuate your best features. If your eyes are an amazing shade of blue, use make-up to bring them out. It would be helpful to get other people's opinion on this; or even better, get advice from a beauty consultant.

Tip # 3: Be Seen With Other Men.

Here's an unusual way on how to make him want you more. Just show him that he's not the only one vying for your attention.

When he sees you having lunch or even talking with other guys, he's going to be prompted into thinking of you in ways that are more than platonic.

You don't have to go out on a lot of dates. You just have to show him that he's not the only guy in your life. Smile, laugh and converse meaningfully with other men to show him just what he's missing out on.

Learning how to make him want you more is easy with these tips in mind. And the most important thing is to know how to love yourself. Remember that you can't expect other people to see the good in you if you can't see it for yourself.

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Top 10 Guy-Friendly Romantic Movies For Valentine's Day

As Good As It Gets (1997)

A brilliant story about a single mother/waitress, a misanthropic romance author, and a gay artist who form an unlikely friendship. This is funny, realistic, and charming portrayal of worlds colliding combines smart dialogue with excellent acting.

Why he'll like it: Thanks to Jack Nicholson, a film that could easily become sappy never does. Instead, this brilliant story of three very different people becomes a journey (metaphorically and literally) of self-realization.

Why she'll like it: The discovery of true happiness is the primary theme of this charming film, mixed with the perfect dose of comedy and genuine romance, making this an ideal romantic comedy to watch this Valentine's Day.

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004)

A couple erase each other from their memories, and in the process re-discover what they had to begin with. This surreal and beautiful film stars Jim Carrey and Kate Winslet who are superb in this realistic depiction of a couple's tumultuous love for each other. An original film with inventive film-making and an excellent supporting cast.

Why he'll like it: It's an unlikely romantic film that has a twisty, trippy, thought-provoking take on love. This off-the-wall film will leave you intrigued till the end.

Why she'll like it: With a interesting blend of romance, drama, and fantasy, this honest and realistic portrayal of a relationship is as much about love as it is about inevitable imperfections.

Pretty Woman (1990)

In a classic story of opposites attracting, a wealthy business man played by Richard Gere hires an escort, played by Julia Roberts, to attend some social events, only to fall in love with her.

Why he'll like it: Although this film is slightly more schmaltzy than most of the others listed, this charming story has a surprisingly funny plot that's both entertaining and heart-warming.

Why she'll like it: A modern-day Cinderella story, this lighthearted film is as every bit romantic as it is entertaining.

Sideways (2004)

An emotional and heart-felt comedy about two men reaching middle age with not much to show for it. Embarking on a road trip through California's wine country a week before one of them is about to get married, the two men encounter two fascinating women and are forced to examine their morality.

Why he'll like it: With a rare 97% score on Rotten Tomatoes, this film is so well-done you'll forget you're watching a romantic comedy.

Why she'll like it: This film strikes the rare balance of portraying the characters' emotional pain, imperfection, and angst with true comedic gold. Edgy, funny, and truly romantic.

Slumdog Millionaire (2008)

A young man who grew up in the slums of Mumbai becomes a contestant on the Indian version of "Who Wants to Be a Millionaire?" but is arrested under suspicion of cheating. While being interrogated, events from his past unfold, explaining why he knows the answers.

Why he'll like it: A captivating story in an exotic setting, with dynamic directing and superb acting. This is much more than a love story.

Why she'll like it: Jamal and Latika's romance is undeniable in this entertaining and powerful film. A true love story that's both visually dazzling and emotionally resonant.

There's Something About Mary (1998)

This heart-felt and hilarious movie has become a romantic comedy classic. Ben Stiller and Cameron Diaz star in this Farrelly Brothers comedy about a guy hopelessly in love with a girl.

Why he'll like it: The "hair-gel" scene alone is epic comedy gold, and Cameron Diaz isn't bad to watch either.

Why she'll like it: This quirky romantic comedy is irresistibly funny, with just the right touch of romance to make it appropriate for a Valentine's Day movie.

The Titanic (1997)

This classic and spectacular epic re-creates the ill-fated maiden voyage of the R.M.S. Titanic. A wonderful blend of spectacular visuals and old-fashioned romance and drama.

Why he'll like it: Not just a love story; this film is a winning combination of sophisticated special effects, classic storytelling, and James Cameron doing what he does best.

Why she'll like it: One of the quintessential romance films of all time; Leonardo DiCaprio and Kate Winslet's exhilarating, devastating, and poetic love story is time-less and unforgettable.

Wall-E (2008)

Pixar's brilliant computer-animated tale about a waste-collecting robot in a post-apocalyptic world. Wall-E embarks on a space journey that ultimately decides the fate of man-kind. This charming, hilarious and heart-warming story is an unlikely, yet surprisingly romantic little film.

Why he'll like it: A movie about robots. Enough said.

Why she'll like it: The adorable dynamic of Wall-E and Eve is almost as charming (if not, more so) than a human romance.

Wedding Crashers (2005)

A pair of long-time friends and notorious womanizers who habitually sneak into weddings to meet women find themselves at odds with each another when one of them unexpectedly falls in love. Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson star in this hilarious romantic comedy.

Why he'll like it: Gratuitous nudity, blatant sex jokes, and Vince Vaughan and Owen Wilson in a hilarious duo. What's not to like?

Why she'll like it: Multiple romances blossom and evolve during the film, making it a romantic and appropriate choice for a Valentine's Day film.

When Harry Met Sally (1989)

One of the quintessential romantic comedies of all-time. Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan star as two strangers who share a car trip to New York, along the way discussing aspects of their lives. Eventually becoming good friends, and exploring the dynamic of their relationship.

Why he'll like it: It's a funny and entertaining film, good for some laughs and goes beyond the characters in the film to explore how men and women really think.

Why she'll like it: The iconic chemistry between Harry and Sally makes for a sweet, embraceable comedy, with the prefect amount of romance to make this a great Valentine's Day film.

Honorable Mentions:

Along with the top 10, these 5 notable romance-themed films are also worth watching:

Annie Hall (1977)

Chocolat (2000)

The Curious Case of Benjamin Button (2008)

Forrest Gump (1994)

Groundhog Day (1993)

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Valentine's Day Date Ideas

So it's every man's favorite time of year again; when you're expected to come up with an extra special and most importantly, romantic way to spend Valentine's Day with your special lady. Whether you're attempting to out-do yourself and your fabulous Valentine's Day plans from last year, or are looking to sweep your new girlfriend off of her feet with your suave skills and charm, we have you covered with 10 thoughtful and romantic ways to spend this Valentine's Day - from going out to staying in. So get planning, Romeo!

Going Out:

1. Weekend Getaway: What's more romantic than a cozy weekend away to spend time with each other? Whether you book a romantic lodge and go skiing for the weekend, or a cozy bed and breakfast outside of the city and make a weekend trip out of it, the schedule is yours to create. Bring it up a notch: by going for a long walk or taking her cross-country skiing at night and staring at the stars - bring a thermos of hot chocolate, and you're all set!

2. Couple's Spa Massage: The only thing better than a relaxing massage at the spa is when you can share it with your special lady. Surprise her with an indulgent experience you two can share together. Bring it up a notch: by making a day out of it and surprising her with a gorgeous bouquet of flowers and treating her to a delicious lunch. Get some ice cream for dessert and go for a walk and enjoy each other's company. Who says Valentine's Day is confined to just evenings?

3. A Night of Entertainment: Enjoy an evening of great entertainment with your lady. The possibilities are endless and can be completely tailored to your (or more importantly her) interests. Whether you think she'd love tickets to a music concert, Broadway production, comedy club, or sporting event, you're bound to make the evening memorable. Bring it up a notch: by taking her to a nice restaurant for dinner and dessert before the rest of your evening begins.

4. Dinner and a Movie: Ok, ok so maybe this isn't the most original of date plans, but who says you have to re-invent the wheel? If you both enjoy dining out and love going to see movies, why not do it on the quintessential date night? Bring it up a notch: by taking her to the same restaurant you guys first had dinner together at. Enjoy some wine, share a delicious dessert, and then take a romantic walk and tell her how much she means to you before you guys catch the movie.

5. Wine Tasting Tour: A great way to spend some time together in a romantic setting while still doing something a little different. Whether you take the afternoon and go on half day wine tour with cheese, or make a day out of it by going on a dinner tour with wine pairing, this is a great way to get some time away to share an experience together. Bring it up a notch: by making a weekend trip out of it. Book a cozy bed and breakfast or country-style inn and romance it up by enjoying the fire place, jacuzzi, and most importantly each other's company.

Staying In:

6. Candlelight Dinner: Tried and true; cooking her dinner at home can be just as romantic - if not more than taking her out to a restaurant for Valentine's Day. The menu is yours to make, so sharpen your skills and try cooking your special lady her favorite meal. Dessert cannot be forgotten - whether you're a cooking rock-star and make her tiramisu or chocolate mousse, or have fresh fruit and melted chocolate set aside to dip with her together, both are wonderfully romantic. Bring it up a notch: by hand-making the menus and personalizing the meal and dessert names or using some cute inside jokes you have. Above all - do not forget the candles!

7. Breakfast In Bed: Start the day off by surprising her with her favorite breakfast - cooked just by you. Be sure to include a red rose or her favorite flower with the breakfast tray along with other Valentine's Day decorations to set the theme such as personalized M&Ms with messages such as "you + her" or "I love you" on them. Red cinnamon hearts or Hershey's Kisses are also great candies to add that romantic touch. Bring it up a notch: by including a hand-made Valentine telling her how much she means to you; you don't need to be Shakespeare - a few lines are all you need to get the message across.

8. Home-made Popcorn and Romantic Movie: Sometimes it's the little things that make a memorable and romantic night so special. This Valentine's Day, surprise her with an old-fashioned kettle popcorn maker and some classic romantic comedies, or her favorite movies. Before the movie, you two can have fun making popcorn together, and then curl up and enjoy cuddling while you watch a movie or two. Bring it up a notch: by arriving with a beautiful bouquet of flowers and by picking up her favorite little candies and a bottle of champagne to enjoy during the movie.

9. Private Spa - Bubble Bath and Massage: Pamper her by turning the bathroom into a romantic and relaxing spa. Start off by running her a bath filled with bubbles or rose petals and oil, lighting some scented candles and turning on some romantic tunes. Crawl in together and have fun relaxing. Afterwards, indulge her with a massage using scented massage oil or a delicious massage bar. Bring it up a notch: by surprising her with champagne and chocolate-covered strawberries after her massage. Use the left-over melted chocolate and have fun finger painting messages on each other - just make sure you're not on her 500 thread count ivory sheets for this!

10. Romantic Treasure Hunt and Poem: Have some fun with Valentine's Day this year! Leave a trail of rose petals, chocolate Hershey's Kisses, or red cinnamon heart candies leading to different areas with little gifts or messages. Make the final stop a hand-made Valentine with a cute poem, or limerick about what she means to you (this doesn't have to be too serious - a funny poem can be just as romantic and also gets her laughing). Bring it up a notch: by leaving naughty gifts along the way to use later on, such as sexy lingerie, massage oil, and candles. Then surprise her with an awesome massage accompanied by some romantic music to set the mood - just avoid bad cliches and being too cheesy, and no Barry White!

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What Men Want In A Relationship - Look Within to Find the Answer

Have you struggled to figure out what men want in a relationship? Do men seem mysterious to you and you are constantly trying to figure them out? Do you think that men are hard to figure out? Have you concluded that all men want is a hot body? What men want in a relationship may surprise you and you may not need to look far to find the answer.

Men are not from a foreign planet. They were not raised in another world by alien creatures. You have a father. You may have uncles, a brother, or cousins. They may help provide a clue because they are easier for you to understand since you are presumably closer to them. Have you considered asking them what men are looking for in a relationship instead of just discussing it with your girlfriends? Give this a try and see what they say.

The things men and women want from a relationship are not the dissimilar. Everyone wants to be able to trust someone, have a good friend in good times and bad and provide physical and emotional comfort. The way these things are delivered may be different between the sexes, but underneath it all, men want many of the same things that women do.

A True Friend

Men want a relationship with a woman who can also be their friend. You are likely to share your innermost secrets with each other and you both want to know that you can count on each other to keep confidences and talk through things that you wouldn't necessarily discuss with people you are not close to.

Someone Who Listens

Many guys won't open up about their feelings, but if you listen carefully it isn't hard to sense what may be bothering them. Often, a guy wants to be able to unload his pent up frustrations and problems the same way women do. Having a good listener is something all people need in their lives and men are no different.

Physical Closeness

To one degree or another, most people like to have physical contact, and not just for sexual needs. Although men may not want physical contact in public because of their macho image, they nonetheless enjoy cuddling when the time is right and will welcome this under appropriate conditions.

A Partner Who Has it Together

Just like you want to be proud of your guy, men want to be proud of their lady. This goes beyond just taking good physical care of yourself. Of course men want to be with a woman who grooms herself and looks great in public, but they also want someone they can be proud of for the person she is. If you are with a guy who is ambitious and is trying to improve his life, you are probably with someone who wants the same in his partner as well. Guys worth being with want a lady who is striving to live her life to the fullest. If you are doing that, you will stand out and attract the kind of guy who is more likely to want success for himself as well.

In all likelihood, what men want in a relationship will be very close to what you want in a relationship. Make sure you know what you want out of life, act on it and be yourself.

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Do Nice Guys Finish Last?

Every guy who's been abused, taken advantage of or dumped for some jerk has asked himself this question:

"Do nice guys really finish last?"

That's one worth answering--do we really need to turn into something we're not (cocky, inconsiderate, lying, cheating jerks) if we want to get the girl?

The answer to that question depends on how you define "nice."

I define "nice" as being a decent, considerate man who lives up to his responsibilities and generally makes an effort to treat others well.

But that's not what we're talking about here. Because "nice" as women define it in the context of dating means "weak-willed" and "needy."

And by this definition, nice guys do indeed finish last.

Are you fooling yourself into believing that your needy behavior is actually a virtue? Worse, are you then resentful that this imagined virtue isn't appreciated?

Some self honesty is needed here. I understand how frustrating it is to be rejected or overlooked by women, but the fact of the matter is that if you're so desperate for companionship that you become needy and clingy... the thing that needs to be fixed is your behavior--not everyone else's attitude.

Here's what needy guys do:

1. Act jealous or possessive when they like a woman.

2. Call or text with multiple follow-ups if they don't receive an immediate response to the first one.

3. Put the women they like on a pedestal.

4. Submissively avoid confrontation at all costs.

5. Buy overly extravagant gifts.

6. Try too hard to impress.

7. Display insecurity by constantly seeking affirmation and validation from women they like.

8. Unknowingly harass women with oppressively intrusive behavior.

9. Get too far ahead of themselves emotionally and "fall in love" on the first date.

Notice that none of these things have anything to do with "nice." Nice is just a label that we put on it when our needy behavior get out of control.

It makes us feel good--morally superior, even--to say that women just don't appreciate "nice guys" after we chase them off with weak, emasculated behavior.

And if that's hard medicine to take for you, let me just say this. I've had to take it myself. And yes, it's hard going down, but once you FIX this problem within yourself (and IT IS your problem), then miracles begin to happen.

That's not an exaggeration--this kind of needy behavior is poisonous. Shed it and start being your own man and your attraction level will literally skyrocket over night.

It all starts with being big enough to admit that your behavior is not altruistic. Fess up--you want what MOST guys want--the companionship of good woman.

And you also want what all those bad-boy jerks want. You want sex with attractive women.

Admit it. It doesn't make you a bad guy. You're not a saint, for God's sake. This is the dating world.

And that doesn't mean you have to mistreat women to get what you want--but it DOES mean that you don't have to go out there and make yourself a victim.

Take charge. Take control. Most of all, own up to your behavior and what results from it. This is your life and your responsibility to get the most from it.

Now get out there and make something happen.

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How to Get The Woman With the Boob Job Into Your Bed

Have you ever been to a bar or party when you see a attractive women with noticeable breast implants? All of your guy friends laugh and joke about how hot she is even though her body and chest may be her only good attributes? You know, the one that the other women talk about. You might here them say things like. "why would you do that to yourself? People will just stare at you. I would feel embarrassed if I did that. I can't believe she has such little respect for herself." Meanwhile all the men pretend to agree but really, they can't keep their eyes off off her.

You constantly try to stare at her without being noticed but every so often she catches you and doesn't really even give you a dirty look. You think that's weird since most women usually look offended. The reason these girls didn't do that is because they crave attention. That's the main reason why they got the boob job. They knew it would attract attention and that's exactly what they are looking for. They heard on some daytime talk-show that getting implants will boost their self-confidence and help them be more successful. In reality this does make a difference in both these categories but the real issue is what you must focus on.

Many times after they get the boob job, maybe work out and get into shape, they find they are getting asked on even less dates than before. The problem is men think "wow, I can't talk to a girl like that." She probably has the perfect picture of the man she wants and I don't think I fit that. The end result is very few people will talk to girls like in fear of this problem.

Now this is where you are wrong. Girls like this are desperate to talk to men, almost any man. If you are an ordinary guy that can be a little charming (and not stare at her chest) she will give you more than just the time of day. She may be shy at first but once you continue to to talk with her and make her realize that you are not just here to gawk at her implants, she will open up to you. Make sure you do not comment on how hot she looks early on. She knows this and will automatically think you are just there to get her into bed. See how the night goes.

Remember that people with fast cars like to drive fast, people with guns like to shoot them. Girls with implants...

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