Rules of Dating for Men - 3 Dating Rules That Make Me Laugh

Somewhere about 10-12 years ago, an underground scene kind of exploded and got some attention from people that normally did not notice it at all. It was the pick up artist scene, and when men started to find this kind of advice available on the web, things changed for a lot of guys. That was a good thing, as a lot of average men got the chance to learn some techniques to pick up and attract women, and they got to learn some dating advice that they would not have normally gotten.

With every good, there has to be a little bad that comes out of it. One of those bad things is that a lot of guys started to parrot this idea that there were rules that men had to follow, rules that were set in stone or else they were going to fail to get women. You know, I always like to point out the fact that you really don't have to follow a rigid set of rules when it comes to getting women, and the more experience and success that you get, the more you will see this to be true.

Because of these rules, a lot of men end up missing their chances, just because they are trying to play by the book. Problem is, life is not a book, it's dynamic and always changing, and not every woman is going to respond in the same way or to the same things.

Here are 3 rules that I see men follow like they are set in stone that make me laugh, because a lot of the time... they end up causing more harm than good.

Rule #1- The man always has to end the conversation first.

What this rule springs up from, is that most guys will linger around a woman just a little bit too long. So, they are making a pretty good impression, but they don't know when to leave or to end things, and that ends up making them seem less valuable or desirable to a woman. In some instances, it can be good to follow this rule. In others, it will prevent you from getting any further with a woman.

One of the things that I have seen when guys try hard to follow this rule by the book, is that they end the conversation just for the sake of being the one to end the conversation. How unnatural is that? If the conversation is going good and the sparks are really flying, it does NOT matter who ends the conversation. A woman is not going to be feeling like she is head over heels for you and then stop, realize that you did not end the conversation first and suddenly feel no attraction to you.

While the principle behind this rule may be solid, as in you don't want to linger too long, it's not always the best thing to do to try and be the one to end the conversation first. Like I said, if you do your job of making her want you, it does not matter at all if she ends the conversation or if you do. What matters is the attraction that she feels for you.

Rule # 2- You always have to act as if you have something better to do.

I've seen this rule presented in many different forms, and it is based on the premise that you need to show a woman that you are very valuable and that you have a very active life going on. This sounds reasonable on the surface... until you get down to day to day life. See, basically this is another act that you are supposed to put on to make yourself seem like a guy who is always on the go, a guy that will make her life better.

For that reason, it can be a good thing. You definitely don't want a woman to think that you have no life or that being with you will be boring. Here is the rub, though. There are times when not having anything better to do than to hang out with a woman or spend time with her will work wonders.

Here's an example of what I mean: You are having a boring Saturday, not much to do. You've gotten a number recently from a woman and you want to give her a call. Spending time with her would be more fun than just sitting on the couch, no? So, you call her up and you let her know that you are not going anything and guess what? She says she isn't either and that gives YOU the perfect opportunity to get up with her to do something.

Had you played up the old, I've got something better to do, you would have never gotten that opportunity. Look, most women, even good looking women live just as boring of a life as you do. There is nothing wrong with letting a woman know that you are not doing anything and that you are free to do something with her.

Rule # 3- You have to "peacock" to get attention or to stand out.

This rule sprang up because a guy named Mystery who is regarded to be one of the best pick up artists in the world did this and most guys are followers and copycats, so they did it too. If you don't already know, peacocking means that you wear something that will intentionally stand out and get lots of attention. Wearing a crazy hat, a necklace that grabs attention, anything that stands out.

Again, this is built on a pretty solid principle that you want to stand out in a crowd and have something that makes you seem unique and it gets conversations started. All very good things. But, it took on a life of it's own and now you have a new wave of would be pick up artists who think that they have to peacock or else they won't get girls. So, you see a lot of guys in trendy clubs all wearing things to try and make them standout.

Here's the rub on this one: If every guy is peacocking, none of them are really standing out or unique, are they? Besides, if you know how to get a woman's attention without the extra get up, and wearing that extra get up does not fit your personality, why bother?

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Text Messaging Your Way to His Heart

The fastest way to get a man to fall in love with you is to get him to feel an incredible attraction for you that makes him fall in love.

He will not fall in love unless he feels this magic feeling of attraction. He will not feel motivated to want a commitment if he doesn't feel it.

He may be with you now, but if you want to keep him, you have to know how to make him feel attraction for you that goes really deep.

Your man has a huge ego but he doesn't want to feel like you're trying to make him do anything. He wants to feel completely accepted for who he is and he wants to have that magical feeling towards you.

So if you can understand those two basic thing about your guy you will see how much power you have over him to make him fall in love with you.

Because creating intense attraction is like a formula, you will have to respond to him in a way that creates the idea in his mind that you are a high status woman.

When you make him feel free to be himself but you also make him feel as though he's winning over a high status woman, he'll do just about anything for you. You just have to focus on the big picture of creating attraction within him instead of trying to make it happen all at once.

When men fall in love, they feel as though the woman they are with out shines all the other women they've been with. This is because men want to feel as though they win the best.

Using simple but deadly text messages can trigger those deep feelings of attraction in him where he aches to be with you. It can make him feel as though you are the best thing that has ever happened to him. When you know how to text message your way into his heart, you will place the feeling inside of him that will inspire him to fall in love with you.

If you start painting in his mind how much you appreciate him, then pique his interest with one sentence that will make him think, you will get inside his mind. The key is saying something out of the ordinary that will make him think. When he starts to think about you often, his mind will come to love what it thinks about.

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Dating Tips for Women - Do You Know How to Make Him Want You?

Have you ever had this happen to you? You meet a man, everything seems to be clicking, and you know deep down inside that you want him. You want him as more than a friend, you want him to be the guy you snuggle with at night, the guy you hit the town with on the weekend. You are desperate to find a way to make him want you, but for some reason, your mind is drawing a blank. Why is this happening? You usually have no problems with flirting with a guy and yet, with this guy... it's just not happening.

If you have ever been in that situation, then you know that it is no fun. It's not only a little nerve racking, it kind of makes you question whether or not you really know men the way that you think you do. If something like this or something similar to this kind of thing has happened to you and you did not know what to do to make him want you, then that is probably something that you want to get solved immediately.

It's kind of funny how certain guys can make you feel that way. With some guys, it can be so easy to get him to the point where he is basically ready to eat out of the palm of your hand. Yet, with some guys, it can be almost painful to sit there, trapped inside your mind, trying to think of the right things to do and say to make him feel like he has to be with you.

Here's a little advice that should help you out in those kinds of situations and make him want you:

When you are feeling that way, part of the 'problem' is that you really are attracted to him. Probably more so than most of the men that cross your path each and everyday. So, his opinion becomes really important to you. Maybe even a little too important. Instead of being natural and just being yourself which works pretty well, you end up trying to be a more perfect version of yourself and that ends up making things awkward and way more tense than it should be.

Remember, he's just a guy and you are just a woman.

As good looking as he might be, as charming as he might be- he is still just a guy. Keep reminding yourself of that inside of your head as you sit there and try to be so perfect to impress him. You probably don't have to do as much as you think you do. Really, to get a guy to want you, all you have to do is flirt with him in a way that drives him wild and leave him feeling like he has to see you again. Do that and you are going to win him over most of the time.

Another really important aspect of trying to make a man want you, is to give him the impression that he has to chase after you. Make it exciting for him so that he wants to chase you around. So that when he sees you, he can feel his heart racing. That is the state that you want him to be in if he is going to really desire to be with you.

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The One That Got Away

There is no introduction needed for this topic since the first thought that pops into our minds upon reading the title is of a loved one who somehow slipped through our fingers and ultimately out of sight. This someone was the special person in one's life that basically got away. Chances are high the person who let them get away is still emotional over this reality and wondering where their beloved is today. A common question I receive is, "why would a person let a loved one get away"? Well, the best way to discover the answer was by interviewing some men and women (10 men, 10 women) who acknowledged having a love in their life whom they had let 'get away'.

Four out of ten men admitted they were emotionally immature while they were courting their special partner to even realize what was happening to them in their personal life. Three men admitted being married to their careers while the latter three as well confessed to taking their partner for granted. When asked if and how these men would have addressed this dilemma differently, seven men claimed to reconsider their decision to walk away from their partner, per se letting the 'one get away'. The remaining three men felt that everything happens for a reason therefore there is no need to regret the past and its ramifications.

When the women were asked the same questions, they appeared more reminiscent of their dating experiences. Six out of ten women admitted they were ready to commit to their partner if their partner offered long-term commitment to them, while the latter four delivered different feedback. Two women took responsibility for being overbearing that when they let their love 'get away' while they didn't want to complicate things further by asking for another chance. Surprisingly, one women acknowledged she was not worthy of being granted a second chance. Meanwhile the other two women felt that one cannot make their love stay if they were already determined to check out of the relationship.

The interesting part of my conversation with these candidates verified one consistent theme--all of these candidates strongly believed they let a great person get away. While one cannot control the universe, twelve out of the twenty candidates were lucky to find love again. This time these twelve members chose to work harder to sustain a relationship after acknowledging their short comings the first time around.

This exercise makes one wonder how often does the universe grant people a second chance at love. It all comes down to being open to new opportunities, wherever and whenever, more so with whomever.

Fortunate are those who receive second chances because second chances are not granted, they are earned.

*Demographics of candidates for this study are the following: 10 men and 10 women between the ages of 34 and 52. Prerequisite to qualify for study: candidates have dated long-term (at least 12 months) and/or engaged in relationships for at least three years (36 months).

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