Being Thankful for Your Dating Journey

During this time of year we are all asked to give thanks. It can be hard to be thankful if you feel alone - especially if you head off to a family dinner and Aunt Edna keeps trying to set you up with anyone and everyone she knows. First, stop and take a deep breath. Know that everything is going to work out just as it should. Then take these next steps:

1. Honor the Wonderful Person You Are Start by saying out loud "I am a woman like no other" or "I am a man like no other." Take a deep breath and say it again. Write down a list of all of the wonderful gifts you have to offer the world. Here is a list to borrow from if nothing comes to your mind right away: funny, creative, sensitive, caring, loving, a good cook, a bad cook (which means you support your local restaurants), smart, resourceful, or able to use a computer (you had to use a computer if you are reading this!) Now just sit there in the beauty that you are offering the world. Smile. Giggle a little. Take another deep breath.


2. Be Thankful that Others Care Take a minute to think about Aunt Edna, her intentions are in the right place; it is just the execution that is a bit off. She wants you to be happy. Acknowledge her for the love and care she has for you. If she didn't care about you, she wouldn't have made the effort to run down the garbage truck to get the trash man's phone number for you! Give Aunt Edna a big old hug! You can even let her know your criteria so when she is out shopping around for you she might come closer to the mark!


3. Be Thankful for all of your Past Relationships Every person who has contacted you, e-mailed you or has met with has given you a gift - the gift of sharing themselves. Sometimes the gift is big like a wonderful relationship filled with experiences, flowers, romantic dinners and some close time talking and connecting. Sometimes the gift is the "skipped heart beat" when you see that someone has "winked" at you on a dating site - only to find out that he or she is TOTALLY not your type. Focus on the positive gift that each person gives to you. This will attract more of these gifts.


4. Be Thankful for What is to Come Practice being thankful for the person of your dreams, even if they haven't shown up directly in your life yet. There are several ways you can do this. Visualizing what your life will become with this new person. You can pray for them. Write them a letter or buy them a small gift. Keep it for them and give it when you meet.

Because the holidays are so focused around family, it can be a difficult time for a single person. Take it easy on yourself and focus on the blessings that you do have in your life. Be thankful for all of the gifts and people that are in your life. Fill yourself up with love, then you will be able to give that to others - a very attractive gift to be giving when you are searching for your Mr. or Mrs. Right.

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