Saturday, March 16, 2013

Dating Advice For Men - F Is for Friend Zone

Getting Stuck in the "Friend Zone" is the most frustrating phenomenon that happens to men when they are in pursuit of a special lady.

What is the friend zone?

The Friend Zone is not a physical destination, but sounds like it would be really fun!

It is what happens when you have a romantic interest in a particular woman and - BOOM - out of nowhere she says something like:

"Oh my Gosh, (your name)! You are the best friend ever!"

There are hundreds of variations but, each time, that sentence has that word in it. That word you do not want to hear. Yes, the "F" word - Friend.

From that point on you have been categorized. Ultimately those words stop your romantic pursuit dead in its tracks.Once you're categorized as a friend, it is very challenging to change her mind - Not impossible, just challenging.

How did you end up in the friend zone?

There are lots of reasons. Here are a few of the most common actions that lead men to the FZ.

1. Trying to Please Her - I know it sounds backward, but the more you try to please a woman the less interested she becomes in you over time. Human nature is, we want what we can't have.

2. Putting Her on a Pedestal - The mainstream belief is that the way to get her is by showering her with gifts and letting her know you are lucky that she gives you the time of day.

Garbage! That just makes you look desperate. Do you trust a salesman who seems desperate to make a sale? Women don't either. All you need to do is display that you are comfortable and confident around her, and if you do something like buying her a gift, it was because you wanted to not because you have to, or are trying to "get in her pants."

By all means - THIS DOES NOT MEAN YOU SHOULD TREAT HER IN A DEMEANING WAY OR MAKE HER FEEL BAD ABOUT HERSELF!

Many men take things from one extreme to the other. It is NOT OK to treat a woman like she is worthless. There is a fine line between putting her on a pedestal, treating her with respect (where she will treat you back with respect) and demeaning her.

You must find that line.

3. Being too Available - The perfectly wrong thing to do is change your own plans for the evening if she calls you.

The right thing to do - keep your plans and reschedule with her. It will let her see that you have interesting things happening in your life, and maybe she will become intrigued.

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