Relationship Advice - When Others Realize Your Relationship Is Ending Before You Do!

How many times have you had a relationship end only to hear from everyone around you they weren't surprised it was over? They could see it's demise on the horizon, but you couldn't. Why is that? Were they more keenly aware of what was going on? Are they smarter in relationships than you? No on both deals. It's because they were looking at it from the outside while you were looking at it from your side, or from being involved with your partner.

Let's face it: there's a reason why they say "love is blind". It clouds our judgment and doesn't always allow us to see so much as clearly as maybe we should. It also allows us to put up with much more thoughtlessness and hurt than we would if we weren't in love. It is surprising how much we can decide to put up with, especially if we are afraid to be alone, or we were in a previous relationship that ended badly and we are afraid it could happen again.

When others pick up on an emerging breakup, it is because they usually "know" things that we don't. They've heard rumors or seem something you might not have been aware of. Even if all of the rumors are not true, there's a good possibility at least some hurtful ones have some merit.

The perception of others is not clouded. They see things, even minute details, that make up an entirely different picture than we would like to believe is being portrayed. Your friends tell you they saw signs your relationship was ending. Signs? What signs? You didn't see any signs. Then after they tell you, your reaction is "oh, they were signs."

Sometimes, it comes down to experience. Your friends could have some experience in being in a toxic relationship, while you don't. Therefore, you have no frame of reference. Your friends see the telltale signs and know a breakup is looming. If this is your first real relationship, it would have been better if you knew what to expect so you could have been prepared. Chances are, even if your friends had told you, you wouldn't have listened anyway.

There's nothing wrong with not picking up on much that your friends see. But this is why you should listen to your friends if they voice a concern. It might not seem legitimate at the time, but do yourself a favor and hear them out. It might end up saving you some heartache in the end.