Love is a many splendored thing but it is also a very nerve wracking thing! You spotted the guy you fancy and you need to know whether he feels the same.
The thing is if you let him know how you feel you open you heart out to be stomped upon by a potentially laughing, callous man who is astonished at your hubris for even asking him for a date!
The thing is if you don't make a move you will never know if he could possibly feel the same and yet if you don't make him aware someone else might get there first. What to do??!!
Eeeeek!
The thing that you must do is take the pressure off yourself to be a performing monkey and just be yourself. Your asking someone out does not have to be a tense, long walk up to a guy all stiff and awkward, wait there for an answer then walk off embarrassed - or even get a yes from him and then sigh with grateful, exaggerated relief. It really doesn't have to be that way.
Asking such a direct, unexpected question puts the guy in an awkward position. He is caught on the hop and can only really give one of two answers if he has not been allowed to get used to the idea. What you must do instead is stick around. If the two of you are somewhere that he comes to regularly just gradually make your way to him and strike up a conversation. If you are studying woodwork for example then you already have something in common. Get yourself positioned next to him and start working on the mirroring skills you will have learnt from the website.
Get to know him as a friend first but don't become a sexless pal to him. That is too big a hole to dig yourself out of once you are in it as his pal. Introduce yourself as and remain a potential girlfriend.
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