Here are more of Albert Einstein's timeless thoughts on dating.
1. "Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves."
I call this the "kill two birds with one stone" syndrome. The first date should NEVER be about anything other than the date. In my opinion, dating is all about seduction. I mean, seriously, what else could it be about - finding a tennis partner? No! There will be plenty of time for football games and family barbeques and running errands together, but the first date should be devoid of the things that will cause major distractions. Even if it's just a meet and greet for coffee, the date will be more memorable for her (and profitable for you) if the guy can maintain his focus.
2. "I have no special talent, I am only passionately curious."
I was sitting at a Panera Bread the other day doing some work. There are fewer places in this world that bring together fabulous eye candy to soothe the male soul. One such woman sat immediately to my left. She was with a guy, but I only knew this because I glanced up and saw him. She spoke incessantly, and had a great time doing it.
I'm not saying a guy should be silent - of course not. However, he should demonstrate he is a good listener and draw the conversation to subjects that bring them closer. Many men believe impressing a woman is going to win her over. That's true, except the attributes that will really impress her are not your cash, job, exploits, or toys. It is other "skills" she is searching for in a guy: the ability to converse, laughing together, making her feel that she is the only woman in a crowded room. When a woman concludes, "he really gets me," he usually does. Know what I mean?
3. "The only source of knowledge is experience."
I hope many, many men are reading and profiting from my articles and stories. That's why I do this. However, all this information is for naught if a guy does not get out there and date. "Practice, practice, practice"is one of my personal mantras. Many online dating sites have thousands of female members, and it is highly unlikely a man will find his dream girl on the very first date, or the second; it could take dozens. With the right attitude, those dates are not wasted at all, but provide the experience a man needs to be ready when the right woman comes into his life. At that moment, he desperately wants to be ready, and certainly doesn't want to screw it up. Experience can give a man the knowledge to say and do the right things at the right time.
4. "You can't blame gravity for falling in love."
Gravity is a fixed factor. On our earth it is 9.8 meters per second-square. We fancy that dating and relationships can be just as sure. "If I do this, she will do that," but it just does not work that way. Those guaranteed methods of seduction available on the internet will do one thing for sure - make a wallet lighter. A wise man named Robert Heinlein said, "Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea." If a woman feels no attraction or chemistry, a man may as well be a flea. He is not going to win her romantic affection. Sure, rejection can hurt. Relax - there are over three billion more women on the planet. You've still got a fighting chance.
5. "Sometimes one pays the most for things one gets for nothing."
A friend was speaking with his ex, and she mentioned seeing in the newspaper that an old friend had been arrested for soliciting a prostitute. Just to get one more dig in, she asked, "Have you ever paid for sex?"
"Every time I ever had it," he shot back. She hung up.
We were not created to pay for sex. Nor is assurance of our emotional well being intended to be a costly transaction. Yet it is so for many. We had no control over the way our parents raised us, and the influences that critically shaped our lives are largely out of our control. So we live with bundles of hoarded garbage that manipulate the ways we relate to others, especially the ones we call intimates.
We don't have to pay forever. Emotional well being is supposed to be the norm. Sometimes, a vast quantity of work is required to get to the right place. It's worth the effort. Change, real change is possible. Yeah, this relates to dating. Emotional freedom will revolutionize confidence and the way you relate to the ones you date.
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