Remember when your English teacher told you to write that five hundred word essay back in seventh grade? You had to write an entire page of nonsense on some topic that you weren't even interested in. What a waste of time. Or was it?
Imagine what your English teacher would say now if he knew you wanted to write another five hundred word essay today as an adult. This might be the situation you find yourself in if you're thinking of trying online dating.
If you're not a prolific novelist and you're dreading the process of writing a dating profile, you're not alone. Here's how to write about yourself in a compelling manner to a woman even if you failed English class.
Talk, don't write.
First of all, get out of writing mode. If I tell you to write something on a blank sheet of paper, it's difficult. If I tell you to talk to me and introduce yourself, it's easy. Therefore think of a dating profile not as a sheet of paper, but as a person. Talk to it, don't write.
Past, present and future.
Structure your profile into three sections starting with your past. What adventures, experiences and memorable moments do you have in your life? Think about the encounters that were the most exhilarating and jot them down.
Next, switch to the present. What are you doing right now in your life? Where are you career wise? What activities, interests and hobbies are you currently involved in? Try to include things that your soon to be girlfriend can do with you. (Ex: skiing, kayaking, rock climbing etc.)
Finally, think about what you want in the near future. Where do you want to be relationship wise in 3 to 6 months from now? Whether you're looking for something casual or serious, make sure you communicate it clearly so that you don't mislead the women you meet online.
Engage her.
How you say something is just as important as what you say. Don't fill up your profile with dry facts about yourself and expect truckloads of attractive women to come running. You've got to grab her attention and make her feel strong emotions when she reads your profile.
You do this by engaging her. Paint a vivid picture of who you are and what you're like with your words. This means including lots of details. For example, don't say "I enjoy going out for drinks with friends." That's boring. Instead, try something like: "On any given weekend, my friends and I get together for what we call a three "G" meeting. It consists of good food, great laughs and grateful friends."
Use the right tools.
We live in a digital world and it's chalk full of goodies to help you get things done quickly and easily. Spell checks, thesauruses, and word suggestion pop-ups are all the rage right now. Use them to your advantage so that you don't look lazy, childish or just plain stupid. Women are attracted to men that are intelligent so make sure your spelling, grammar and overall word flow are flawless.
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