Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Expect No Magic Using Online Dating Sites

Before I start, I would like to warn the reader that everything in this article is solely the author's opinion and is not based on any research or experiment.

If you are one of those single people who just haven't yet happened to meet that special one, then I bet you are constantly attacked with friends and family's suggestions to sign up on one of the many dating sites. You may be reluctant for several reasons: you think that it's shameful to be a member of such websites; you believe that this is not the place to look for a serious relationship; or you simply don't like getting to know people in cyberspace. All your excuses make your friends and family even more persistent in trying to convince you to give at least one dating site a chance. Finally, you surrender and secretly tell your best friend that you actually started to occasionally cat online with one nice girl. All excited, you go on a date just to realize that she is absolutely not your type, even though you chose her profile on one of the best online dating sites that promise you a perfect match after you complete a long questionnaire. Of course, if you are promised magic and nothing of the kind happens, then you can become even more skeptical about using online dating sites.

I should tell you, though, such minor frustration should not stop you from looking for that special someone. In my opinion, you should never rely on what such websites "think" would be the best match for you. First of all, if there existed such a theory that could easily predict who would be the best candidate for your future spouse, than people would end up married the next day after starting online dating. However, nothing is that simple in this life. Obviously, if you take any online dating site, it has to be at least a little bit different in order to stand out from the big crowd of such sites. There should be something special about a dating website so it catches your attention and makes you think that this is where the love of your life might be waiting for you.

Some of the websites guarantee you a perfect match based on your preferences: but do you really think that the fact that you both like traveling or, let's say, dogs, will make you a great couple?! Sometimes when answering a simple "cat or dog lover" question, you choose either one not because you have ten dogs currently living in your house or you intend to have a kitten any time in the future - you just like one better than the other, end of story.

Some of the websites make you answer a list of tricky psychological questions that are supposedly analyzed by experts and allegedly you will never see a match on your screen that is, again, in their opinion, not your type. I totally disagree with that as well - sometimes even opposites live happily complementing each other. With love, there is no recipe, no secrets, no best advice - it just happens and you never know when, how and where the arrow of Amour will pierce you. Dating online is a great way to find people, people who are open about looking for a relationship, so you can easily skip the part when you ask your colleague to do you a favor and figure out if the new receptionist is single.

In a nutshell, do not just rely on websites' promises to find the best match for you - trust me, nobody is sitting with a crystal ball there trying to find the love of your life. You just need to realize that everything is in your hands and the more effort you put in the higher chances you will have to achieve what you want.



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