Relationship Advice - Are You Acting Too Desperate?

Just because you want to be in a solid relationship doesn't mean you have to rush it. If it's meant to be, it will happen in its own in time. But some people just can't seem to wait that long and their attempt to rush things comes across as being desperate. This is a sure way to drive someone away. That is why it's important to know if you are acting desperate... so you don't run off a potential partner.

How do you know if you are "too desperate?"

1. You plan out everything for both of you... everything. This leaves no room for spontaneity on the other person's part. Being so controlling means you want to make every effort to ensure your time together goes exactly the way you want it to. You have the "perfect" scenario planned out in your mind and nothing will interfere with those plans!

2. You make absolutely sure you are always with someone. Lag time between relationships means wasted time to you, time that could be spent cultivating a relationship. Typically, you won't really let one person go until you securely have another one lined up and ready to take a shot at.

3. You look for someone who is just a little too agreeable. Passing over perfectly good people just to find the one person who allows you to control their life... is a major sign of desperation. Eventually, no matter how laid back or naive the other person is, they will see what you are doing, get freaked out... and move on!

4. You hang on to someone even after it is obvious the relationship is over. Even after the breakup and it has clearly ended, you still don't seem to get the message. You constantly attempt to contact the other person. This screams desperation and cements the end to any possibility of reconciliation. Others pick up on this too, and see this is something they want no part of.

5. When a relationship ends, you make it your mission to alert everyone (even those who don't care), of exactly what happened and how it could never have been anything you did wrong. The blame always goes on to the other person... the ex. You were perfect in the relationship. There is no reason why anyone in their right mind would ever consider dumping you.

In other words, all of the people you have been involved with in past relationships were losers. But don't believe for a second anyone actually believes that!

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