Chasing the trends in just about anything may bring you some short term success, but if you want to have long term success, you need to pay attention to the fundamental things that are going to bring you the results that you want. In terms of dating, there are trendy ways to dress and act to try and attract women and they might be good for today, but who knows about tomorrow? If you want to sustain long terms success when it comes to dating and attracting women, then the fundamentals are the things that you really want to pay attention to. I know it can be kind of alluring to chase after the latest trends, but most guys who are really good with women are that way because they have the fundamentals down and that allows them to have more success than most average guys do.
These are the guys who you really want to emulate if you are looking for a model of what to do when it comes to attracting women. These are the guys who can walk into just about any bar or club and have a good chance of being able to approach and attract a woman. They are the ones who don't have to worry about whether or not they are going to have a date this weekend, because they know that they will and it all comes back to the fact that they know and understand the fundamentals of attraction.
Here are 6 dating tips for men that will never go out of style because of the fact that they are based on the fundamentals and not chasing fads or trends:
1. You want to become comfortable in your own skin, no matter where you might be.
Like I said, there are some guys who don't seem to have a problem getting attention from women no matter where they go. You can take them to a hip hop club one night and they are going to have a good time and then you can take them to a country western club and they still are going to have an easier time attracting attention from women than most guys will. The reason for that usually comes back to the fact that no matter where they are and where they go, they feel comfortable in their own skin. The club might change a little bit and the crowd might change, but they still feel comfortable with who they are. When you come across that way, you are bound to get attention from women because that kind of confidence is a rare commodity and that makes it one that most women are going to value pretty highly.
2. You want to dress in a way that accurately portrays who you really are.
This is one area where a lot of guys will chase the trends, hoping that if they keep in style that they will be able to attract attention from women. While it may work to some extent, you can also easily come across as kind of a poser and that's not really the best impression that a guy can make. The way that you dress should be a reflection of who you really are. If you are a guy who totally hates the emo scene, for example, you don't want to dress like you love it. You might attract the attention of women who are into that scene if you do dress that way, but at some point they are going to be able to tell that it is just an act and when they do figure that out, you are going to lose their attention just as quickly as you might have gained it.
3. The guy who has more options than the next guy is usually the one who ends up with a date on Friday night.
This is one area where you really can't go wrong as long as you have many options as far as who you can ask out. You don't necessarily have to become a player, you just need to realize that when you focus all of your attention on just one woman, you are inevitably going to limit yourself. What if she ends up saying no to a date with you? What if she says that she just wants to be friends? Or, what if she just happens to be busy this weekend? If you only have one option and it doesn't work out, you are going to be left sitting home alone. On the other hand, if you have many options and one of them doesn't happen to work out, you can always call up someone else and have a pretty good chance of still being able to pull a date for the weekend.
4. You have to understand that even though attraction isn't really a choice that a woman makes, it can still be heavily influenced by you.
When some guys realize that attraction isn't really a choice for a woman, they either feel it or they don't, they make the mistake of feeling as though that means that they don't have much of a chance of influencing the way that a woman feels about them. That could not be further from the truth. You CAN influence the way that a woman feels about you and there are plenty of things that you can do to make her feel attracted to you. The broader your skill set is as far as attracting a woman goes, the more likely it is that you can even take a situation where a woman doesn't feel much attraction to you right away and turn it into a situation where it starts to grow. This is one of the things that naturals seem to do well and it ends up being one of the major reasons why they seem to attract any woman that they want to.
5. online dating is a good option to explore, as long as you realize that it is not going to be an untapped paradise filled with single women who want you.
Having the right expectations when you try out online dating makes a huge difference in how you interpret the experience and it has a huge effect on how things actually go for you. A lot of men will make the mistake of imagining that whatever online dating site that they have signed up for is going to somehow turn out to be a magical place filled with women who want them and they end up really disappointed when they find out that it isn't that way at all. Online dating sites can be a good option, but like bars and clubs, it all depends on the scene, your skills and other variables. It's not like you are going to be paired up with a supermodel the moment that you sign up.
6. Seduction is not about tricking women, it's about enticing them.
Some guys hear the word seduction and they link that word to the idea that you have to try and trick a woman into wanting you and that's not the way that it is at all. Seduction is more about learning how to entice a woman the right way. It's more about learning how to make women feel certain emotions when they are around you and building their attraction up until they reach that point where it goes from being merely attraction and becomes all out desire. When you can make a woman feel like she totally desires to be around you, you have it made. That is what seduction is all about. The trickery, the gimmicks, those things don't really matter that much and you don't have to go down that road if you don't want to. There are plenty of viable methods of seduction that work and have nothing to do with tricking a woman.
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