Do You Really Want to Get Your Boyfriend Back?

A lot of women go through break-ups - some mutual and some one-sided. Some women move on with their life and some want to find a way to get back together with their ex.

Those that end up wanting their ex back may not always think carefully about their decision to get back together with their ex-boyfriend. Sometimes women make decisions that are led by their emotions and ego.

When your emotions are not under control and you are not in the right state of mind to think clearly, you may end up jumping to the wrong conclusions or making the mistake of getting back in a relationship for the wrong reasons.

If you are wanting to get back together with your ex boyfriend, you have to put your emotions aside and really think about whether you REALLY want to get back with this person.

If you have made up your mind that getting back together with your ex is what you truly want to do, you have to ask yourself why. There many instances where getting back together may not be justified. Here are few examples.

Example 1

Your boyfriend isn't making you happy and you decide to call off the relationship. In the end, you come to realize that you miss his presence and decide to get back together with him because you don't want to be lonely.

Example 2

Your boyfriend dumped you and got with another girl. You don't want him to be with anyone else but you. You don't really love him like that but you can't stand the thought of him being with someone else.

So, you want to win him back so that you can have your ex wrapped around your little finger and get that ego boost from being able to take him back from another girl.

Example 3

You were in a relationship with a guy who pretty much took care of you financially. Anyway, the relationship ends and you miss the perks of being together with your ex. So, you decide to try to win him back so that he can continue on providing for you.

All of these are examples of someone wanting to get back with their ex for the wrong reasons. If you want to get your ex back because of loneliness, revenge, pride, materialistic benefits, what other people think, jealousy, sex, or other reasons guided by your ego or immature thinking, you will not be happy with the outcome even if you do actually win your ex back.

So, put aside the emotions and your ego and ask yourself the following questions.

• Why did we break up?
• Why do I want to get back together with him?
• Do I still love him?
• Am I able to let go of the past and work on addressing the issues that led to the breakup?

If, after looking back at the relationship and analyzing the answers to the above questions, you have decided to try to win him back, you can start working towards your goal.

Winning your ex boyfriend back may not be the easiest thing to do but if the love is there and you are willing to address the issues that lead to the break up, be patient, and commit to a solid plan to win your ex back and create a better relationship with him, things can work out for the both of you.

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