Three Ways To Keep His Ex-Girlfriend Away

If you have a great boyfriend right now, then good for you! I'm pretty sure you think you deserve him. But if this is the case, you might want to keep this opinion to yourself. The danger with believing that your guy is too good for you is that he may believe it as well.

There's also another potential pitfall from having a great boyfriend, and that is when his ex come trolling by trying to figure out how to get your boyfriend back for themselves. After all, you may not be the first to realize how great he is. Some of his ex may have come to this realization as well. Your job is to make them recognize the fact that they're too late.

Here are a few techniques to make sure there's no reconciliation with an ex in your guy's future:

• Don't let him forget why they broke up in the first place. Men are generally forgetful; sometimes they'll bitch about all the bad things their ex did, but in an argument it is also entirely possible he'll mention something she did great during their relationship. When he does this, you need to resist the temptation to snap back something along the lines of "he thinks his ex-gf is all that great, then he should get back with her." There's always a chance he'll say, "I will!" to that suggestion.


• When your guy reminisces about all the evil and traumatic things his ex used to do, let him vent. For one, you get a good idea of what he truly doesn't want. You can then avoid doing the same thing his ex did that caused him to break up with them in the first place. Two, this gives you ammunition when she comes sniffing by in supposedly "chance" encounters. You can trot out the information you learn within her hearing: "Is she that ex of yours who used to sleep around with other guys?" or "Is that the one you called the dead fish in bed?" Yes, it is mortifying, but it should also prove a very effective deterrent.


• Be around. This doesn't mean that you should be around him all the time. It just means that you should be available when he needs you. Men have very short attention spans, and while absence may make his heart grow fonder, it doesn't really do much for his "needs." This is one of the main reasons why long-distance relationships do not work majority of the time.

A girlfriend-to most men-is someone whom they can rely on to have a date with (and to be intimate with) on a fairly regular basis. In addition, you also provide a sympathetic ear whenever he whines about work, or his favorite baseball team. Who else can gently rub his back when he's frustrated, or get him his favorite food and drink? Who else will have sex with him when he's feeling horny? His guy friends sure won't, and you need to make sure that his ex-girlfriend doesn't, either. If she's around when you're not, there may be too much temptation for him to fall back on old habits.